Chip is a leadership coach, author of Every Dog Has Its Day, and president of the North Carolina Woodturners. He's coached hundreds of executives across industries, survived a stroke that redirected his life onto what he calls the second mountain, and found in a humble wood lathe a set of lessons that no boardroom had taught him. In this conversation, we dig into hubris and self-awareness, how the best leaders find touchstones, why delegation is almost universally broken, and how to tell the difference between building an asset and building a legacy.

This one is for anyone who's been chasing the next promotion without stopping to ask what they actually want — and for any leader who suspects their biggest blind spot might be hiding in plain sight.

Show Notes and Chapters

00:00 — Welcome, Guest Introduction & Show Overview

02:47 — "Every Dog Has Its Day" Philosophy Explained

05:09 — Surviving a Stroke, Living on Bonus Time

08:00 — The Water Cure Poem & Humility Lesson

11:44 — Woodturning, Leadership, and Life on the Lathe

18:13 — The Second Mountain: Meaning Over Success

25:48 — Black Swan Events & Building Self-Awareness

30:55 — Hubris: The #1 Leadership Blind Spot

38:13 — Phases of Leadership Growth Over Time

43:45 — How to Find the Right Business Coach

49:05 — Legacy vs. Asset: Succession in Family Business

57:00 — Self-Leadership, Clarity, and What You Want

Resources Mentioned:

Chip Scholz's website:  http://scholzandassociates.com/ 

Chip's current book — available on Amazon, Audiobooks, Kobo, Barnes & Noble, Walmart

In this episode of A Joyful Rebellion, Kate shares the deeply personal process of untangling herself from an identity she had carried since childhood and learning how to build a life that actually reflected who she was becoming — not just who people expected her to be.

We talk about creativity, career pivots, burnout, external validation, the trap of “potential,” and why so many high achievers secretly feel stuck inside lives that look successful from the outside. Kate also shares practical insights from her book Beyond Potential about reassessing old stories, redefining success, and taking action toward a more aligned future.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re allowed to want something different, this conversation will hit home.

Show Notes & Chapters

00:00 — When your success no longer feels like your life

01:08 — The rebellion of walking away from a dream career

03:18 — The podcast story that changed Kate’s trajectory

04:55 — Realizing the version of herself she wanted to become

07:15 — Choosing the cello because of a childhood crush

09:08 — Why classical musicians “aren’t supposed” to quit

10:26 — The sunk cost trap high achievers struggle with

11:32 — The relief Kate felt when concerts were canceled in 2020

14:13 — Helping creatives reinvent themselves during the pandemic

16:08 — Why so many people secretly want permission to pivot

17:34 — The stories that keep people trapped in old identities

20:42 — “Rocking chair tasks” and fake productivity

22:18 — Why more people are creative than they realize

26:32 — Expanding your identity beyond one label

30:04 — Why successful people struggle to leave successful careers

33:37 — Generational shifts in work, purpose, and reinvention

36:15 — Elite careers and the hidden cost of mastery

39:35 — The real meaning behind “Beyond Potential”

41:37 — Designing your own version of success

44:45 — When hobbies accidentally become businesses

48:19 — The awkwardness of introducing the “new” version of yourself

52:06 — Why friends sometimes resist your evolution

55:46 — Small action steps that help you reinvent your life

• Kate Kayaian Official Website

They were wrong.

In this episode of A Joyful Rebellion, Ken shares the long road from catastrophic spinal cord injury to earning multiple graduate degrees, becoming an assistant district attorney, raising triplets, and writing his memoir, I Dream of Things That Never Were.

This conversation dives into resilience, identity, disability, expectations, purpose, and the quiet danger of letting other people decide what your future should look like. It’s also a deeply human conversation about grief, adaptation, love, fatherhood, and why hope sometimes starts with simply refusing to quit.

Show Notes & Chapters 00:00 — The prosecutor nobody expected to see in court 02:21 — The football tackle that changed Ken’s life forever 05:48 — Doctors tell his family to “let him go” 07:17 — Reading the pamphlet that predicted a hopeless future 10:32 — Returning to Cornell less than a year after paralysis 13:05 — Rejection, job hunting, and mailing 200 resumes 14:06 — Discovering purpose through helping others with disabilities 18:16 — From introvert to public speaker and advocate 19:54 — Navigating inaccessible campuses before the ADA 24:36 — Why Ken decided to become a lawyer 26:08 — Becoming an assistant district attorney despite enormous barriers 30:10 — The danger of low expectations 33:16 — Why Ken refused sympathy from juries 35:02 — How to talk to people with disabilities without fear 37:10 — Choosing growth instead of despair after trauma 39:02 — “Dream of things that never were” 42:16 — Writing the book that his sons would one day read 44:40 — Marriage, IVF, and becoming the father of triplets 49:00 — Advice for someone newly facing spinal cord injury 53:33 — Retirement, public speaking, and continuing to inspire others 56:05 — The award named in Ken’s honor

• Ken Kunken Official Website

Bart Merrell helps people create financial security by monetizing what they already know, already do, and often completely ignore.

From building a DJ business at 15 to working internationally and turning everyday skills into income streams, Bart’s built his life around one simple question: can this be monetized?

We talk about why money really means options, how to spot opportunities hiding in plain sight, and the mindset shift that turns side hustles into something much bigger.

If you’ve ever felt like you should be doing more—but don’t know where to start—this one will get your gears turning.

Kristan shares her journey from business coaching entrepreneurs to helping people reconnect with themselves through journaling, group conversations, and spiritual autobiography work. Together, they explore why success means something different at every stage of life, how many people confuse identity with roles like career or parenthood, and why some people would rather stay stuck than face the unknown.

They also dive into practical tools like journaling prompts, defining your own version of success, and creating space for deeper connection in a distracted world.

If you’ve ever felt like something in your life needs to change—but you can’t quite name what—this conversation may be exactly what you need.

00:00  Why many people don’t actually want to change 00:52  Introduction to Kristan Swan 02:22  From business coaching to deeper life work 05:00  Patterns, awareness, and why journaling matters 07:23  How journaling became a transformational tool 11:12  Working with entrepreneurs and redefining success 15:00  Living someone else’s version of success 17:58  Losing identity through work, parenting, or caregiving 21:24  Desired outcomes vs needing to be right 22:25  What is a spiritual autobiography? 29:17  The shift from business goals to life fulfillment 33:20  Loneliness, superficial connection, and modern life 38:03  Gen X toughness vs self-compassion 46:36  Vulnerability as leadership 48:39  Blind spots, complaints, and personal responsibility 52:17  Why staying stuck can feel safer than changing 52:40  New journal: Heart Mapping 55:54  Raising adults and modeling healthy behavior

• KristanSwan.com

• Kristan’s journals: Spaghetti on the Wall and Heart Mapping

For Rand Timmerman, the answer is layered in grief, sobriety, brotherhood, faith, and unfinished business.

A Vietnam veteran, longtime attorney, and recovery advocate, Rand set out on the Appalachian Trail with his brother shortly after overcoming alcoholism and while processing decades of emotional weight—including war trauma, addiction, and the lingering pain of loss. What began as an ambitious physical challenge quickly became something deeper: a spiritual reckoning in the wilderness.

In this conversation, Rand shares what pushed him to attempt one of the world’s most grueling hikes in his seventies, the near-death moments that tested him on the trail, and the spiritual encounters that changed the way he sees life, God, and suffering. He also opens up about his battle with alcoholism, the role faith played in his recovery, and why he believes it is never too late to pursue something bold.

His book, Spiritual Passage, documents the entire journey—and serves as a reminder that some of life’s most meaningful adventures begin when most people think their best years are behind them.

[00:00] Starting the Appalachian Trail at 72 years old [02:30] The sheer scale of hiking 2,200 miles and 465,000 feet of elevation [05:00] Sobriety, addiction, and the emotional reasons behind the hike [06:30] How grief and Vietnam trauma shaped the journey [07:00] Two brothers, two very different hiking mindsets [08:30] The hilarious origin of Rand’s trail name: “Rambo” [10:20] How many shoes it takes to hike the Appalachian Trail [12:00] Their leapfrog hiking strategy with two vehicles [17:00] “I thought we’d last two weeks max” [19:00] His brother nearly quits after a traumatic nightmare [22:00] The spiritual experience that changed his brother forever [25:00] Maintaining sobriety on the trail through mental meetings [27:00] Coyotes, bears, and wilderness encounters [28:00] Surviving a terrifying storm on the mountain [31:00] Falling down a rockslide and severe injury [35:00] The heartbreaking moment Rand had to stop hiking [37:00] Why he wrote Spiritual Passage [40:00] How the book began helping people struggling with addiction [42:00] His philosophy on faith, higher power, and surrender [47:00] Why it’s never too late to start something epic [50:00] Advice for anyone considering the Appalachian Trail

• Book: Spiritual Passage by Rand Timmerman

• Website: https://www.randtimmerman.com/

• Recovery Program: 12-Step Alcohol Recovery Program (Referenced throughout episode)

In this episode, Garrett Wood breaks down what burnout actually looks like—not the Instagram version, but the real, physiological, day-to-day experience of it. From sleep disruption and irritability to chronic pain and identity collapse, Garrett walks us through the five stages of burnout and why high achievers are especially vulnerable to repeating the cycle.

We dig into the difference between managing symptoms and addressing root causes, and why your nervous system—not your willpower—is often the missing piece. Garrett also shares how beliefs like “I have to prove I’m enough” quietly drive burnout, and how success built on sacrifice can backfire over time.

This conversation flips the script: what if sustainable success isn’t built at the expense of your wellbeing—but because of it?

If you’ve ever told yourself to “just push through,” this one might stop you in your tracks.

[00:00] The myth of sacrifice and success [01:00] What burnout really looks like (and why it repeats) [03:00] Symptoms vs. root causes of burnout [05:30] The dangerous “runway” game high achievers play [06:50] Garrett’s first burnout: promotion, isolation, and chronic pain [08:30] ER visit and the wake-up call [09:30] The moment that changed everything: a colleague’s suicide [11:30] Identity, work, and the slippery slope [13:00] The 5 stages of burnout explained [16:00] When burnout becomes your identity [18:30] Why burnout spreads in workplaces and relationships [20:00] Loving your work—and burning out anyway [22:30] The role of boredom, ADHD, and misalignment [25:00] Cynicism as a major burnout signal [27:00] When burnout isn’t work—it’s life outside of it [30:00] Managing stress vs. changing stressors [33:00] Nervous system regulation and the relaxation response [36:00] Why quick fixes don’t work—and what actually does [40:00] Serial burnout and starting over (again and again) [43:00] Hypnotherapy explained (without the hype) [48:00] When to get help (hint: earlier than you think) [50:00] Rethinking success: wellbeing vs. sacrifice [52:00] Social media, hustle culture, and the burnout trap

• Website: Gnosis Therapy | Transform Your Burnout into a Breakthrough

• Approach: A3 Framework (Assess → Accommodate → Align)

• Modality: Hypnotherapy + nervous system regulation

In this conversation, novelist Cinda Gault breaks down a truth most people avoid: the hardest part of living on your own terms isn’t courage—it’s clarity. Because if you don’t know what you actually want, every decision becomes harder.

Cinda’s path wasn’t linear. She helped start a women’s crisis center in the 1970s, worked in a men’s prison, earned advanced degrees, raised two kids, and only then fully committed to writing. Along the way, she learned that meaningful work isn’t about prestige—it’s about alignment.

We talk about writing bold female characters who refuse to stay small, why historical fiction is really about bringing interior lives back to the surface, and how every generation wrestles with autonomy in its own way. She also shares a powerful distinction: there’s a difference between wanting to write a book and wanting to be a writer—and knowing which one you want can save years of frustration.

This episode is a challenge: stop waiting for permission, get brutally honest about what you want, and start building a life that actually fits.

• [00:00] “A rebellion still needs a plan” — clarity vs chaos

• [01:00] From feminism to fiction: early career and crisis center work

• [04:00] Prison guard experience and studying power dynamics

• [06:00] The “joyful rebellion” moment: realizing she hated her dream job

• [08:00] Writing romance to pay the bills

• [10:00] Going back to school and building craft intentionally

• [13:00] Historical fiction: facts vs the invisible inner life

• [17:00] Discovering real women in history and rewriting their stories

• [22:00] Building fictional worlds from real historical figures

• [25:00] Why she writes women who refuse to stay small

• [28:00] “You don’t need to quit your job to rebel”

• [30:00] The importance of knowing what you actually want

• [32:00] Writing about the 70s: memory, emotion, and selection

• [36:00] How different generations respond to her work

• [41:00] Wanting to write vs wanting to be a writer

• [45:00] What’s next: contemporary fiction + children’s book

• Website: Cinda Gault

• Free genre-history webinar series (via her website)

• Historical fiction novels + upcoming children’s book (Beak the Clown)

Lisa shares her deeply personal journey through a decade-long legal battle, representing herself in over 100 court appearances and ultimately helping shape case law. Together, she and James explore how abuse can hide in plain sight, why leaving often takes longer than people understand, and how awareness becomes the first act of rebellion.

This conversation moves from darkness into hope — showing how pain can transform into purpose, and how healing creates space for healthier relationships, stronger boundaries, and a new chapter of life. If you or someone you know has ever felt trapped in circumstances that seemed impossible to escape, this episode offers insight, validation, and a reminder that the air really is cleaner on the other side.

00:00 — Opening Hook Lisa explains the turning point: when staying became more painful than leaving.

02:15 — Introducing Lisa & the Concept of Legal Abuse How her story began and what “legal abuse” actually means.

03:40 — The Double Life & The Beginning of the Fight Discovery, fear, financial pressure, and the long road ahead.

04:57 — Representing Herself in Court From lawyer to pro se litigant — and arguing at the appellate level.

07:13 — Death by a Thousand Paper Cuts How the legal system can be weaponized.

08:29 — What She Learned About Family Court Why even educated, articulate people struggle inside the system.

09:18 — Rage, Injustice, and Despair The three emotions that defined the journey.

11:45 — Turning Pain Into Purpose Why she began helping others.

13:09 — Discovering the Term “Legal Abuse” The moment everything clicked.

14:05 — Building a Global Support Community From two people to an international network.

16:49 — How to Recognize Legal Abuse Early warning signs and high-conflict indicators.

23:33 — Invisible Forms of Domestic Violence Coercive control and why people miss the clues.

26:45 — The Frog in the Pot Analogy How abuse becomes normalized over time.

32:18 — The Moment She Finally Left Breaking point and emotional reality.

35:34 — Protecting the Kids During the Legal Battle Parenting through chaos.

44:24 — Writing the First Book How the message expanded into a larger mission.

47:51 — The Next Book & Alienation When an ex turns children against a parent.

49:14 — How Friends Can Help Someone in a Toxic Relationship What to say — and what NOT to say.

55:11 — Final Story & Message of Hope The reminder that life on the other side can be better than imagined.

• Been There Got Out (support resources & quiz)

• High Conflict Institute — Bill Eddy (BIF communication method)

• Local Domestic Violence Centers (general recommendation)

What followed wasn’t a cinematic comeback. It was 30+ years of pivots, depression, lawsuits, discrimination, reinvention, fatherhood, state championships, and a relentless rebuilding of identity.

Scott shares the moment he realized he was “faking it,” the malpractice trial that cracked him open, and the night he sat alone asking, “What the hell am I going to do now?” From rewriting how he coached to adopting five children internationally to reclaiming his confidence on the sidelines, Scott’s story is not about soccer — it’s about resilience that refuses to quit.

His new memoir, Play From Your Heart, explores loss, grit, and the long arc of recovery. This episode is a powerful reminder that resilience isn’t instant — it’s built over decades.

[00:00] “What the hell am I going to do now?” — the moment after the trial [03:00] Soccer as art: Jackson Pollock and the “beautiful game” [08:00] The Nike camp, sudden illness, and collapsing overnight [10:00] A month-long coma and the life-or-death decision [13:00] Faking strength for four years [18:00] Depression and the loss of confidence [22:00] The malpractice lawsuit and courtroom drama [25:00] Hitting bottom after the verdict [26:00] The pendulum moment: rebuilding alone [29:00] Writing the “Soccer Atlas” and coaching differently [32:00] Selling everything and moving west [34:00] Discrimination and rebuilding identity [35:00] Adopting five children internationally [43:00] Coaching underdogs to a state championship [46:00] 30 years later: when life finally felt “good” [48:00] “Turn off your brain. Play from your heart.” [49:00] Teaching by putting people “in a position to learn” [51:00] Education, resilience, and responsibility

• Memoir: Play From Your Heart (pre-sale via Library Tales Publishing)

• Email contact: reader.playfromyourheart@gmail.com

• Distributor: Simon & Schuster (in pipeline at time of recording)

After years of writing in secret—carrying shame, creative fear, and a persistent who am I to do this?—Carrie finished A Small Tale of Uncommon Grace, a novel that intentionally pushes back against a culture saturated with noise and dystopia. Instead of resistance, the book is driven by acceptance. Instead of spectacle, it offers wonder. Nature is a living presence, hope is deliberate, and beauty is treated as essential rather than indulgent.

In this conversation, Carrie shares what it took to move from emotionally distant drafts to vulnerable, living pages—and how breaking long-held patterns finally allowed her to hear her own creative voice. We talk about writing methodically (her preferred term over “slow”), trusting quiet stories, and the courage required to let tender work be seen. She also reflects on small creative acts—turning newsprint into paper hearts, hanging origami cranes on a neighborhood wishing tree—as ways of choosing meaning when the world feels heavy.

If you’ve been keeping your creativity tucked away, this episode is an invitation to bring it into the light.

• [00:00] A quiet rebellion: why gentleness can be a radical act

• [01:00] Writing in secret and the fear of being seen

• [03:40] Holding the finished book; early creative life across mediums

• [06:00] From distance to vulnerability: rewriting with emotional presence

• [08:45] Breaking family patterns and shedding creative shame

• [12:50] “The world isn’t watching your every move” — freedom from imagined judgment

• [18:45] Writing against dystopia; nature as a character; choosing a hopeful ending

• [22:40] Meet Grace (19): conversation with the living world

• [26:30] Methodical writing, parking-lot epiphanies, and knowing the ending first

• [29:45] Teen beta reader finishes the book in a day: “Please write more”

• [36:00] Letting the book rest for years; fear of being “too quiet”

• [37:30] Finding the right boutique publisher and editorial partnership

• [48:30] Paper hearts, wishing trees, and choosing beauty anyway

• Novel: A Small Tale of Uncommon Grace — by Carrie Birde

• Publisher: Blind and Square Books (editor Tara Tomczyk)

• Creative practices: Paper-heart project (newsprint → handmade hearts), neighborhood wishing tree with origami cranes

Paul breaks down the psychology of leveling up, why constraints are actually gameplay (not cages), and how to protect your passion when real-world realities start wearing you down. They dig into burnout cycles, decision fatigue, creative identity, and how reframing your workflow through a “character sheet” can unlock clarity and momentum.

Whether you're a full-time artist, a side-hustler, or just a human trying to build a life you love, this episode gives you permission to make the process playful again — and become the hero of your own adventure.

00:00 – Gaming, constraints, and the balloon metaphor Why rules aren’t cages — they’re flexible boundaries you can push and shape.

00:55 – Introduction to Paul & the Gamify Business concept James frames the problem creatives face: burnout, disillusionment, and the myth that business must be joyless.

02:02 – Meet Paul Pape Paul’s background as “Santa for Nerds” and how he fell into creative business coaching.

03:30 – The burnout cycle creatives face Why passionate beginners lose momentum — and how pricing, clients, and pressure play into it.

04:33 – The Twitch years & the birth of his coaching method Paul explains how livestreaming his work connected him with stuck creatives.

06:23 – Gamifying business for his first clients The origin story: turning business roles into characters and obstacles into monsters.

07:49 – Why gaming principles translate so well to creative work Leveling systems, rewards, small wins, and understanding constraints.

09:07 – Games Paul plays & the value of short-form escapism A fun detour into attention, downtime, and why the “episodic” matters.

11:12 – Creativity outside the craft James shares how he made the business side of photography creative when the work wasn’t.

12:38 – Who Paul works with now Not just artists — anyone who problem-solves is a creative.

13:50 – Grinding: the gaming term that explains real life Why tedious tasks matter and how to make peace with them.

16:55 – The two questions Paul asks every new client The Passion Question & The Differentiation Question — the seeds of your “character sheet.”

18:05 – Riding the dragon of passion Why passion is the only sustainable fuel — and why chasing fame/fortune leads to burnout.

19:56 – The confidence spell How authentic passion creates magnetism; your 100 true fans.

22:20 – Rejection as data, not failure No = not your customer.

25:24 – Breaking “the way it’s always been done” Rewriting broken systems, expectations, and training culture.

29:57 – Ownership & mowing your own path Why entrepreneurship is choosing your own adventure (literally).

31:22 – Not everyone is built for entrepreneurship — and that’s okay How personality plays into role, structure, and fulfillment.

33:33 – The lawn-mowing guy metaphor Pushing boundaries, dealing with critics, and doing the work anyway.

34:56 – Decision fatigue & gamifying workflow How to simplify choices and avoid overwhelmed brain.

37:48 – A cautionary tale: over-ordering inventory The Chocolate Mii story + the danger of assumptions.

40:08 – The quickest way to gamify your life Download the free “character sheet” and start with introspection.

45:24 – Constraints as gameplay Seeing rules as flexible, not fixed.

49:03 – Failure as a step, not a stop Why creatives must fail forward — a central theme of Paul’s work.

50:23 – James’ Pomodoro twist & personal game mechanics Using timed constraints to stay focused and present.

53:37 – Understanding your “stats” Breaking down strengths, weaknesses, and capacity like a character build.

59:20 – Final words from Paul “Life is an adventure — don’t be an NPC.”

• Gamify Business (Paul’s website): http://gamifybusiness.com

• Free Character Sheet + Starter Chapters: http://gamifybusiness.com/podcast

Together they unpack why so many creatives fear being wrong, how scarcity and digital culture have reshaped artistic risk-taking, and why younger artists often struggle to “live in the unknown.” Alexandra also breaks down the philosophy and structure of her upcoming book — a toolkit offering essays, embodiment exercises, creative prompts, scores, and 50+ questions per chapter to help artists deepen their process and understand their own constellation of influences.

If you’re a dancer, photographer, writer, or anyone chasing meaning through creative work, this conversation will encourage you to rethink motivation, embrace experimentation, and rekindle a healthier relationship with your craft.

00:00 – The Sweet Spot Between Humility and Certainty Alexandra opens with a reflection on living in the unknown as an artist. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

00:51 – Can Art Actually Heal Us? James introduces Alexandra’s body of work and the role healing plays in creativity. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

02:05 – Alexandra’s Artistic Journey From dancing with Bill T. Jones to teaching, somatics, and movement analysis. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

03:38 – The Myth: “Real Art Isn’t Healing” Alexandra breaks down the false divide between art and healing. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

07:17 – Are Great Artists Actually Broken? A reframing of the stereotype of the tortured artist. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

09:07 – Finding Her Own Path & Mapping the Body Interoception, embodiment, and teaching others to access inner awareness. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

13:11 – Why She Wrote the Book How questions, rigor, and embodiment turned into a 12-chapter toolkit. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

18:48 – What Early Readers Told Her Mentorship gaps, agency, and a “choose-your-own-adventure” creative structure. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

22:01 – Advice for Young Artists Humility, certainty, and finding the constellation of your artistic identity. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

26:32 – The Fear of Being Wrong How scarcity and digital life changed creative confidence. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

30:02 – Creativity, Craft, and the Boring Work Why mastering fundamentals is essential for developing voice. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

36:59 – Technique, Skill-Building & Finding Your Style Craft as choices, virtuosity redefined, and genre-specific development. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

39:21 – What Non-Creatives Don’t See The hundreds of hours behind any performance — and respecting your own “amateur” creativity. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

45:15 – Burnout, Capitalism, and Organic Growth Why forcing artistry into business timelines breaks people. 20251029_AJR_alexandra-beller_t…

50:20 – Closing Reflections Creative connections, appreciation, and where to find Alexandra. 

• Alexandra’s website: alexandrabellerdances.org

• Alexandra’s upcoming book (title pending)

• Bill T. Jones / Bill T. Jones–Arnie Zane Company

• Liz Lerman’s Critical Response Process framework

Drawing from research, decades of coaching experience, and her own personal reinvention, Erika breaks down the three guiding principles for aging well: Be the boss of your life, master your mindset, and get good at change. We explore how internalized ageism limits people long before their bodies do, why curiosity keeps the brain young, and the surprising research that shows mindset alone can add an average of 7.6 years to your life.

From reframing what “midlife” actually means to learning entirely new skills in your seventies, this episode reframes aging as a deeply personal, totally customizable adventure. If you’re in your 50s, 60s, 70s — or simply planning ahead — this joyful rebellion against age stereotypes will encourage you to write your own story all the way through.

00:00 — The truth about agency in later life

00:52 — Rebelling against aging stereotypes

01:20 — Who is Erika Andersen? Introducing The New Old

02:40 — What “third act” really means

04:05 — Why Erika shifted from leadership books to aging well

05:18 — Pandemic reflections and redefining her own future

06:12 — The new reality: people are living longer than ever

07:30 — Surprising research on longevity and mindset

09:02 — How aging looks different today

10:23 — Erika’s move to Spain & learning Spanish in her late 60s

12:40 — The three principles of aging well

15:00 — Helping people who feel “out of ideas” post-career

19:10 — The role of mindset in shaping the third act

20:00 — The Yale mindset study: 7.6 years added

23:15 — The simple 3-step process to shift your self-talk

25:10 — Are younger generations less ageist?

27:00 — Companies trying (and failing) to market to boomers

29:00 — Curiosity as a lifelong anti-aging tool

33:00 — How to “modify gracefully” as life changes

36:00 — The importance of learning new things at any age

40:00 — What Spain gets right about old age

43:00 — Connection: the thread running through everything

44:55 — You control more about aging than you think

• The New Old: Crafting Your Best Later Life — by Erika Andersen

• Erika’s website: Erika Andersen, Nationally-Known Business Thinker & Author

• Erika’s Substack: The New Old

Matt opens up about what it takes to turn lived chaos into a compelling narrative, how comedy and poker shaped his resilience, why landscape photography taught him to chase the story, and the moment he realized writing wasn’t just a project — it was a calling. From navigating roadblocks guarded by student revolutionaries to learning the discipline of descriptive writing, Matt shares an honest look at creativity, curiosity, and what happens when you finally decide to “get on the mountain.”

Whether you’re dreaming of a big adventure or sitting on a creative idea you’ve been avoiding, this conversation will nudge you to start.

00:00 – The Power of Just Starting

01:00 – Who Is Matt Savino? Physics, Comedy & Professional Dabbling

02:00 – Life Paths, Career Pivots & Creative Curiosity

03:00 – From Stand-Up to Programming: Finding Flow State

05:00 – Poker, Tilt, and Why Emotional Fitness Matters

07:00 – Discovering Landscape Photography & Adventure Travel

08:30 – Why Matt Decided to Drive to South America

10:00 – The Plan, the Layoff & the Push to Go

12:00 – Travel Writing, Bill Bryson, and Learning to Tell a Story

14:00 – Getting Stranded in Nicaragua During an Uprising

16:00 – Talking His Way Through Roadblocks & Type-2 Fun

18:00 – Learning to Write Descriptively (and the “bugaboo”)

21:00 – The Value of a Writing Coach & Structured Accountability

23:00 – James & Matt Swap Book-Writing Lessons

26:00 – Creativity, Voice, and Building a Book From Chaos

28:00 – The Behind-the-Scenes of Publishing and Editing

31:00 – Image Licensing, Kindle Issues & Hybrid Publishing

34:00 – The Emotional Rollercoaster of Finishing a Book

36:00 – Planning the Next Adventure: South America

38:00 – Fear, Purpose, and Choosing a Life With Momentum

39:00 – Marketing, Superfans, and Letting the Next Story Begin

40:00 – Home - Matt Savino and Where to Follow the Journey

41:00 – Final Thoughts: “Just Get On the Mountain”

• Matt’s Website: Home - Matt Savino

• Book: A Land Without a Continent

• Bill Bryson, A Walk in the Woods

In this raw, energizing conversation, Matt challenges the watered-down pop-culture version of “everyone’s a leader” and explains why true leadership demands excellence, contextual intelligence, and self-compassion. He shares how chaos can actually be the doorway to your potential, why perfection kills growth, and why iteration—not talent—is what makes someone excellent.

Matt tells the personal story of how a shocking prostate cancer diagnosis forced him to stop, rethink, and write the book he’s always wanted to write. From navigating chaos to cultivating excellence through small courageous actions, this episode offers a practical roadmap for becoming someone who leads with purpose — whether that’s at work, at home, or within yourself.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, mediocre, or waiting for the “perfect time,” this one will wake you up.

00:00 – The Enemy of Excellence Matt explains why perfection is the enemy and why excellence requires iteration: “You have to try, fail, try, fail, redo, redo, redo.” 

01:30 – Everyone Thinks They're a Leader Why society’s “everyone is a leader” message creates a leadership vacuum. 

05:00 – Leadership as a Disappearing Act Cultural bias against standing out — the “tallest poppy gets cut down.” 

06:30 – Contextual Intelligence The leadership skill most people ignore: shifting styles based on the environment. 

09:45 – Chaos as a Package for Potential Matt: “Chaos is often the package that your potential arrives in.” 

13:30 – Excellence, Perception, Inspiration, Compassion (EPIC) The 4-part framework of Matt’s new book. 

21:00 – Mediocrity as a Social Pandemic Why we embrace “the middle” rather than risk failure. 

36:30 – Cancer, Chaos & Writing the Book Matt shares the prostate cancer diagnosis that forced stillness and sparked creativity. 

55:00 – The 3D Thinking Model How hindsight + insight + foresight = powerful decision-making.

• Book (pre-order): Becoming Epic — available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and major retailers

• Website: Home - matthewkutz

In this conversation, host James Walters and John dive into the evolution of media bias, the emotional cost of news work, and how personal loss informed John’s writing. They discuss his process of creating authentic female protagonists, navigating rejection, and using storytelling as a path toward healing. Whether you’re an aspiring writer or a lifelong reader, this episode reminds us that sometimes the best way to understand the world—or ourselves—is to write it down.

• [00:00–02:00] Introduction — Tear gas and the birth of a journalist

• [02:00–07:00] Early reporting days and first paying gig

• [07:00–11:00] White House years, Alfred Hitchcock, and lessons from Reagan’s press room

• [11:00–13:00] Fiction that mirrors reality — when thrillers predict politics

• [13:00–16:00] Journalism, bias, and truth in the age of disinformation

• [16:00–20:00] The turning point — grief, burnout, and leaving CNN

• [20:00–25:00] Writing as healing: turning loss into narrative

• [25:00–29:00] Empathy, emotion, and writing from a female perspective

• [29:00–34:00] The creative partnership with his wife Cindy and how “Enemy’s Domestic” was born

• [34:00–42:00] Writing across differences — empathy, voice, and representation

• [42:00–49:00] Rejection, perseverance, and the evolving publishing world

• [49:00–52:00] Why writer’s conferences matter and finding your people

• [52:00–53:00] John’s advice to anyone with a story to tell: Just write.

• John DeDakis Official Website: johndedakis.com

• Book: Enemies Domestic (Grand Prize, Santa Clue Award)

• Newsletter/Essays: Letters from the Road by historian Heather Cox Richardson

• Organization: American Forces Radio and Television Network

In this raw and human conversation, Wes and James unpack what it means to remove the masks we wear, confront our own chaos, and start over from the inside out. From therapy and breathwork to cold plunges, plant medicine, and real friendships, Wes shares how simple, consistent practices reshaped not just his mental health but his entire business and identity.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a version of yourself that no longer fits, this episode will remind you that it’s never too late to rebuild—and that peace often starts with something as simple as taking a deep breath.

[00:00] – Introduction: When storytelling and self-awareness overlap [00:02] – Wes’s crisis: losing his marriage and identity [00:04] – Compartmentalizing emotions and “performing through pain” [00:06] – The friend who told the hard truth [00:07] – Therapy, breathwork, and micro-habits that changed everything [00:10] – What breathwork really does—and why driven people resist it [00:12] – Cold plunges, breath cycles, and body reset [00:14] – Letting go of who you were “supposed to be” [00:16] – Deconstructing belief systems and early conditioning [00:18] – Building new habits, structure, and emotional tools [00:21] – Growth without changing careers—how inner work transformed his business [00:24] – Exploring plant medicine as emotional rewiring [00:27] – The vision that helped him forgive and heal [00:28] – Friendship, brotherhood, and rebuilding community [00:32] – Business success through balance and humanity [00:38] – AI, storytelling, and staying human [00:40] – Final reflections and where to connect with Wes

• Wes Towers’ website: uplift360.com.au

• Connect with Wes on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/westowers

• Wim Hof Method (breathwork reference)

• Box Breathing technique (as discussed)

Mark shares industry war stories (serving lunches in Sony’s boardroom, seeing artists reduced to “commodities”), the craft lessons he got from Songwriters Guild president George David Weiss, and why the best art reflects what’s the same in us—what makes us laugh, cry, and lean in. Then we pivot into feeln️ess, his body-first alternative to traditional fitness: nine everyday movements that restored his mobility and joy in his 60s without chasing aesthetics or gym culture. We close with a simple assignment: make a seven-day list of what you loved as a kid, and do one item every day for 30 days. If your voice has gone quiet—or your body feels stuck—this episode is a roadmap back.

• [00:00] Cold open: “Creativity isn’t magic—it’s a habit you can train.”

• [03:00] Creativity as muscle + habit; why systems beat chaos.

• [07:00] The pen name that honors his mother’s Swedish lineage—and why “Firehammer” felt too aggressive for the work.

• [09:00] Reading the book’s premise: Jonas Wilder, culture’s “flattening,” and the cost of trading truth for belonging.

• [11:00] AI as bandmate: iterative production to match the song “exactly” as heard in his head; book↔album loop.

• [20:00] Jonas’s father as metaphor for culture; learning to question everything while finding “the window.”

• [25:00] New York in the ’90s: Sony boardroom, the commodity conversation, and choosing art over industry.

• [30:00] Craft lessons from George David Weiss; structure serves story (chorus first, bridges only if there’s something to cross).

• [33:00] Favorite story-songs: Harry Chapin’s “Mr. Tanner,” Eagles classics, Dan Fogelberg deep cuts—why place + people endure.

• [45:00] Feeln️ess origin: from “oof” at 58 to pain-free at 62; natural systems > artificial ideals.

• [48:00] The nine daily tasks (bed/floor, chair, reach, bend, rotate, etc.) and 20 minutes/day to restore function.

• [55:00] Blue Zones inspiration; designing a low-to-the-floor home that keeps you moving.

• [57:00] Homework: list what you loved as a kid; do one item daily for 30 days—awareness → action → joy.

• Novel: The Echo and the Voice (published under a pen name honoring his mother’s family).

• Companion Album: AI-assisted soundtrack sequenced to “wake you up.”

• Feeln️ess: Nine natural movements for lifelong mobility (Mark’s framework).

Christian shares the personal journey from adolescent depression and religious conflict to an unshakeable sense of self, plus practical ways to stop playing small: name what you want, set clear boundaries, and learn to feel and communicate emotions responsibly. If you’ve ever floated through life on autopilot or handed your power to circumstance, this episode is your nudge to become the author of your own story—on purpose.

• [00:00] Cold open: “Love is the act, not the feeling”—and why the real work starts after the honeymoon.

• [02:00] From depression and self-loathing to an unshakeable sense of self.

• [03:30] Power isn’t the problem—our confusion is (worldly vs. soulful power).

• [06:00] How we give our power away: saying yes when it’s a no; settling for crumbs.

• [09:00] Faith, identity, and the existential questions that won’t be outrun.

• [12:00] Everyday examples of power leaks in work and love—and how patterns form.

• [15:00] Fear of being hurt → sabotaging relationships before they start.

• [20:00] Boundaries without bravado: expressing truth calmly and clearly.

• [30:00] Women’s empowerment, men’s crisis, and redefining “provider.”

• [35:00] Emotions aren’t weakness: feel → express responsibly → return to center.

• [38:00] Ten relationship challenges and why “completion” thinking breaks love.

• [42:30] The Scott Peck reframe: love as action; spiritual growth over comfort.

• Book: Conscious Love: Transforming Our Relationship to Relationships — Christian de la Huerta.

• Website: Soul Healing & Self Discovery | Soulful Power (programs, books, contact).

Morgana also tells the “29 weddings in 29 countries (to the same husband)” story, the cathedral moment in Puerto Vallarta, and why she believes victim experiences are sacred fuel for evolution—not shame. If spreadsheets never changed your life, this reframe just might.

• [00:00] “The monster isn’t about money”—what money represents (love, value, safety, power).

• [03:00] 29 weddings / 29 countries (to the same partner) + the Puerto Vallarta cathedral story.

• [11:00] Grief is love; money reflects our experience of being loved/safe/valued.

• [12:30] Rock bottom: doing all the things, still broke; the sales-objection class fail.

• [16:00] The turning point: “If money were a person, who would it be?” → the biker “Money Monster.”

• [20:00] Why the monster must hold everything you don’t want (unlovable/unsafe/unworthy).

• [25:00] Slaying the monster → meeting “Money Honey” (love-based, values-aligned).

• [30:00] First dialogue: “What do you need from me to allow you to be with me?” (love ≠ worship).

• [33:00] Immediate results: charging cleanly, clients enroll at double prior rates.

• [36:00] Why breakthroughs can be fast: pressure behind the wall; safety unlocks flow.

• [40:00] Universal patterns: inheritance chaos, guilt/shame, “too much/too little” money.

• [41:00] Six Steps overview: root cause → monster → annihilate → Money Honey → dialogue → action.

• [54:00] Step 6 in practice: the action is often not “businessy” (Paris with the kid; ice-skating).

• [57:00] When stuck, ask: “What do I need to learn here to let go of this struggle?”

• [66:00] Closing: your “victim” experiences are sacred—use them to build a monster worth destroying.

• Book: Financial Alchemy: 12 Months of Magic & Manifestation — by Morgana Rae.

• Website: Make money fall in love with you for Abundance and Prosperity (programs, stories, downloads).

Highlights include a family validation that shook a skeptic, the “hell house” on her walking route with footsteps on the stairs, and a live moment where a Boy Scout–connected spirit briefly steps forward for James. Kate’s core metaphor—everyone is a radio; some pick up more stations than others—invites curiosity without dogma. If you’re cautious but curious, this episode offers discernment, ethics, and a grounded look at what “spooky” can look like in ordinary life.

• [00:00] Set-up at Fuquay Mineral Springs Inn; how Kate and Liz Purdue connected; the “spookiest month.”

• [03:30] Stick Boy bakery → “Are you spooky?” friendship; why Kate doesn’t lead with “I’m a medium.”

• [06:00] The Alzheimer’s validation: “Daisy” turns out to have Alzheimer’s—weeks later.

• [08:00] How messages arrive: mind’s eye, mind’s ear, images/words vs. physical phenomena.

• [10:30] First big encounter at 21: dorm-room man; grandmother’s visit; handwritten notes that stunned an uncle.

• [15:00] Empath overload and uninvited scenes; learning to ground and protect energy.

• [16:00] Massachusetts guesthouse: enslaved woman, “Get out,” recurring dream match from a resident.

• [21:00] What readings are/aren’t: no conjuring, no guarantees; why messages skew therapeutic.

• [23:30] Autonomy matters: you won’t always get answers—you’ll get what moves your life forward.

• [24:30] Ritual: Epsom-salt bath, “love & light only,” call in guides, pre-notes, then FaceTime.

• [25:30] The puzzle method: conversational validation to assemble the message; imposter-syndrome moments.

• [28:30] On over-reliance: “They already told you.” Why spirit gets quiet if you ring the bell too often.

• [33:00] The Margaret story: persistent spirit → genealogy check → exact match (singer/dancer; lung cancer).

• [36:00] Dark stuff? Boundaries, force-field imagery, and keeping it across the street.

• [37:00] The “hell house”: shotgun on the stairs, periwinkle dress, footsteps at night corroborated by locals.

• [40:00] “Everyone’s a radio”: why some pick up more stations; James as open-minded/logic-leaning.

• [48:00] What people get wrong: fear, judgment, and Kate’s view of “hell” as self-imposed stuckness.

• [47:30 & 50:00] How to book; purpose of the work: connection, curiosity, and living more honestly.

• Kate on Instagram: @spookytimekate (DM to inquire/book readings).
• Fuquay Mineral Springs Inn / Pauline’s garden (setting; mentioned during recording).
• Liz Purdue’s haunted tour/book

In this conversation, Guy explains why AI is neither evil nor benign—it amplifies who we are—and why the future we get depends less on code than on character. We dig into conscious AI timelines (quantum + neuromorphic computing), lethal autonomous weapons, and the three reasons this tech inflection is unlike anything before. We also talk personal reinvention, complex PTSD, and why he writes courageous, witty, flawed characters who refuse to be victims. If you want a smarter kind of rebellion—one that sharpens your mind and expands your moral imagination—this one’s for you.

• [00:00] Cold open: “AI is neither evil nor benign; it reflects who we are.”

• [03:00] How he writes: fun, compelling, non-dystopic—and thought-provoking for weeks after.

• [05:00] Backstory: runaway at 13 → father at 20 → four degrees → models that beat the Fed.

• [11:30] From Microsoft burnout to a “third-act” career as an author.

• [17:00] The AP article about a program that “escaped” — and the FBI at his door.

• [22:00] The Snow Chronicle: Sylvia, mini black holes, 5th-dimension physics, and The Image.

• [26:00] Core thesis: don’t fear the image; fear the beast it reflects.

• [29:00] Conscious AI by ~2027–2030? Quantum + neuromorphic + multimodality.

• [32:00] Utopia vs. dystopia isn’t tech—it’s people, policy, and power.

• [49:00] Three unprecedented risks: smarter-than-us, self-replicating, and lethal autonomy.

• [53:00] Where to buy (and why): author-signed copies at Guy Morris Books -Intelligent Action-Thrillers

• Guy’s site/store: http://guymorrisbooks.com (author-signed copies)

We unpack why inclusion (not just representation) matters, how to tell the truth about disability without preaching, and what it takes to bring an indie book to market at a professional level (30 self-edits, two pro editors—including The Hunger Games editor—and award-winning cover art). Teal shares the early reception from schools, Boston Children’s Hospital’s epilepsy unit, neurodivergent readers—and adults who see themselves in the story’s themes of belonging. If you’ve ever been told “stay in your lane,” this is a blueprint for building your own road.

• [00:00] “Sometimes we need to make people uncomfortable” — why discomfort drives change.

• [01:00] Dravet syndrome explained; why Delilah needed a mirror in fiction.

• [04:00] The 3.4% stat and the decision to write the book herself.

• [06:30] Don’t let others decide your life: the counselor, nursing, and coming back stronger.

• [11:00] Building an imprint: why she self-published and how she kept the bar high (pro edits, cover).

• [14:00] Plot mechanics: the indigo door, Othersphere, and the medically induced coma.

• [17:00] Reception: schools, hospital units, neurodivergent readers—and adults who relate.

• [20:00] Who it’s for: middle grade sweet spot, “goosebumps”-level scary, Easter eggs (3-6-9, Daredevil).

• [26:00] Inviting other authors; what Blue Round is looking for.

• [27:00] Progress over perfection: what better inclusion would look like.

• [31:00] Delilah’s real-life progress; spectrum realities; therapy cadence.

• [40:00] Craft advice: collaborate with lived experience; research for authenticity.

• [49:00] Indie realities: POD, marketing grind, timelines, and professionalizing your draft.

• Book: Delilah vs. the Ghastly Grim — T.L. McCoy

• Imprint / Contact: Elevate Your Story with Blue Round Book Group, LLC | Blue Round Book Group, LLC (submissions, services, updates)

In this episode, Susan shares the long arc from shock to strength: choosing safe providers, setting boundaries with media and people, regulating a fried nervous system, and repairing relationships through honest conversation and accountability. Writing her memoir, The Other Side of the Gun, became both a reckoning and a roadmap—for her family and for anyone living in trauma’s wake. This one is practical, steady, and fiercely hopeful: you can’t change what happened, but you can change how you live with it.

• [00:00] Cold open: “Taking your power back” — why naming trauma matters

• [02:00] 1985: the call, the school lot, and the moment everything changed

• [06:30] Media glare, armed guards, and the mask of strength

• [10:30] “You’re fine”: when therapy misses trauma

• [15:30] Denver & Columbine: flashbacks, panic, and the wake-up call

• [19:30] “This is PTSD”: validation, vocabulary, and first tools

• [24:00] Boundaries that heal: news limits, safe people, body-based regulation

• [30:00] Repairing at home: hard conversations, apologies, accountability

• [36:00] Writing the book: timelines, memory, and telling the whole story

• [42:00] Purpose & service: coaching, speaking, and modeling mental health

• [46:00] Closing: it’s a marathon—how to keep going without burning out

• Book: The Other Side of the Gun: My Journey from Trauma to Resiliency (print, Kindle, audiobook)

• Site: Susan Snow Speaks — speaking, coaching, contact & discovery call

That framework became Convergence, his program for weaving three voices—instinct/emotion, active intellect, and a higher-power “I got you” presence—into one integrated way of living. We dig into functional depression, the gifts inside every feeling (“the gift of anger is motivation”), and how to move from autopilot to authorship—on purpose, one step at a time. If you’ve been drifting through your own story, this episode hands the pen back to you.

• [00:00] Cold open + premise: “Find the simple thing that helps you remember you are worthy…”

• [02:30] Author your life: handing the pen to others vs. taking it back (James & David)

• [05:00] Backstory → “good guy” identity; slow self-erasure by helpfulness and humility

• [10:00] Functional depression as numbness; the lyric that revealed “I haven’t felt anything”

• [11:30] Pandemic triggers; late-night drive and suicidal ideation; choosing to tell the truth in therapy

• [20:00] Relearning feelings without judgment; “anger is appropriate” + the gifts inside emotion

• [29:30] The return of the third voice: “I got you” (story of his son + the inner voice)

• [31:00] Convergence framework: emotion ↔ action ↔ higher-power integration (Venn lens)

• [39:00] Building the program with community conversations; who it helps most

• [43:30] What it’s like to work the program: tools, community, authenticity, love in action

• [48:00] Writing the memoir as unflinching self-inventory; why he knows what he knows

• [51:30] Big life bet: moving to NYC with faith and practices intact

• [53:30] Close: worthiness, simple mantras, one step at a time

• Website: home

• Program: Convergence (details via website/contact)

In this conversation, Laura reframes two ideas most people get wrong: grief and gratitude. Grief isn’t failure; it’s fuel for grit. And gratitude isn’t loving your trauma—it’s appreciating what helps you navigate it (hello, guide dogs, Siri, and Alexa). Laura shares practical coaching cues for agency (“What’s one step today—one call, one email?”) and leaves listeners with a simple charge for any identity shift: give yourself compassion, then take the first step forward.

• [00:00] Gratitude clarified: not for trauma, but for what helps you navigate it (yes, Siri/Alexa).

• [01:00] The geography-class moment: the blackboard goes blurry; life tilts.

• [05:00] Denial → “I can’t do this” → anxiety and depression.

• [08:30] “Inch by inch”: parents’ day-by-day mantra.

• [10:00] The dishwasher story: standards stay high; victim identity denied.

• [14:00] First guide dog in San Francisco: choosing to embody grit.

• [16:30] Identity + grief: permission to grieve and move forward at once.

• [21:00] Coaching others: acknowledge loss, then ask for one step today.

• [31:00] “Grief fuels grit”: holding both at the same time.

• [32:00] Gratitude practice: three specifics per day, no repeats; the mindset shift.

• [36:00] Myths: gratitude ≠ forced happiness; keep it embodied, not rote.

• [38:00] Agency: you can’t control circumstances, but you can control response.

• [40:00] Core message: “You are still enough” through any identity change.

• [41:00] Where to find Laura & her work: Laura Bratton | Keynote Speaker .

• [43:00] Final charge: self-compassion first, then one courageous step.

• Book: Harnessing Courage: Overcoming Adversity with Grit and Gratitude — Laura Bratton.

• Speaking/Coaching: Laura Bratton | Keynote Speaker (contact, programs, book info).

We dig into the difference between intuition and emotion, why the rational mind can act like a “bully,” and practical ways to create the calm your intuition needs to be heard: two quiet minutes in the car, time in nature, water, yoga, meditation, even a simple tracking sheet to gather “evidence” you can trust. You’ll also learn how intuition shows up—gut feelings, a quiet inner voice, “thin slicing” certainty, and repeating cues—plus questions to rediscover what you loved before life got noisy. This is a gentle, actionable roadmap from distraction to discernment.

• [00:00] Opening: “Have you ever had a hunch so strong it felt like more than a feeling?”

• [02:00] Why intuition (not “woo-woo”)—Anna’s origin story and early seeking

• [04:00] The “shopping test” & the inner nudge to “just ask” (it worked)

• [06:00] Leaving a beloved but toxic job; realizing “it’s my time”

• [07:00] Midlife crisis as calling; what second-act purpose looks like

• [12:00] The practice of calm: meditation, yoga, nature, water; turning down the rational mind

• [13:00] The rational mind as “bully”; emotion vs. intuition (discernment)

• [16:00] Ideas in motion: a scientist’s best insights while running at Torrey Pines

• [18:00] The freeway/back-road story: ignoring guidance = 30 minutes of construction

• [20:00] Client win: “dig a little deeper”—the job that became five times bigger

• [22:00] How to build trust: use a tracking sheet; notice patterns & results

• [24:00] How intuition shows up: gut, chills, inner voice, “thin slicing,” repeating cues

• [31:00] Finding direction: what you loved as a kid; ask friends “what am I really good at?”

• [33:00] A personal example: importing what she loved (accessories) after feedback clicked

• [35:00] Tiny practices: two quiet minutes in the car; water as a shortcut to calm

• [37:00] “Go sit on the mountain”: traveling to an ashram and learning next-step faith

• [40:00] Closing challenge: review your life’s turning points—where was intuition already guiding?

• Coaching & speaking with Anna Quigley (San Diego-based; virtual groups and talks)

• Intuition practice ideas: meditation, yoga, nature/water time, personal tracking sheet

Dean shares how week-long silent retreats and six months living at a Zen monastery gave him a new center, why success without values is a dead-end, and how “boring, systematic” routines actually fuel creative work. If you’ve ever asked, Is this really the life I want?—this conversation is your permission slip to choose differently, start smaller, and build a life that can actually hold you.

• [00:00] Opening: identity, ambition, and the prodigy trap

• [03:00] Homeschooled faith → atheism → “my new god became money”

• [05:30] Stanford insecurity, stimulants for confidence, and the crypto fund

• [07:30] Tripling the fund… then the crash, panic attacks, and the balcony

• [10:00] The phone call that pulled him back; rehab and the non-linear climb

• [12:30] Two steps forward, almost two back: relapse, lessons, and four years sober

• [13:30] Choosing a smaller life to save the bigger dream (service job → space to write)

• [15:00] COVID as a reset; five years to write God Money

• [18:30] Thoreau experiments: raw land, a DIY cabin, and what didn’t work

• [19:30] Zen practice begins: Rochester Zen Center, retreats, and rigor

• [21:00] Zazen: posture, pain, and why stillness hurts before it heals

• [26:00] The field beyond thought: “no problems” and taking the edge off life

• [28:30] Stoicism parallels; spiritual materialism and the ego in robes

• [33:00] Monastery life: 4:00 a.m. bells, choreographed breakfasts, work as practice

• [35:00] Designing a “boring, systematic” routine to protect creativity

• [41:30] Publishing God Money, reader response, and the next (auto)fiction project

• [43:00] Closing: being as an end in itself

• Book: God Money: Lost and Found in the Crypto Wilderness — Dean Patrick

• Audiobook: narrated by the author

• Website: http://DeanPatrickAuthor.com

• Community/Practice: Rochester Zen Center (mentioned)

We trace the “judgment day” meditation that forced a life review, the mysterious “you’ve got a year” nudge from Jack Canfield, and the journaling marathon that became his books—including Love Letters to the Virgin Mary: The Resurrection of King David and Becoming One with Christ. David breaks down his three levels of mastery—intellectual, emotional, physical—and how daily incantations rewired his faith into lived experience.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re working hard but drifting, this episode is a compass: awareness, honesty, and everyday practices that create the life you actually want.

• [00:00] “Your mind is an ocean… your awareness is the lighthouse” — the premise of directed attention

• [03:00] Military childhood, constant moves, and an early head injury that changed everything

• [11:00] ROTC to Marine officer; 4 years becomes 15; realizing he’d followed his father’s model

• [18:00] Marriage, divorce, and the cost of living in two-to-three-year cycles

• [23:00] Choosing radical accountability; journaling to “reconcile with God”

• [25:00] The Santa Barbara mastermind; Jack Canfield’s “You’ve got a year” and the emptiness that followed

• [35:00] A “judgment day” meditation and a life review focused on love and relationships

• [41:00] From films to faith: patterns, King David, and a turning point toward Christ

• [44:00] A thousand pages of journaling; the title Love Letters to the Virgin Mary lands

• [46:00] “Tony wants to read your book” — grace and momentum, then a crash and reset

• [48:00] Subtitle inspiration and finishing the manuscript; launching Becoming One with Christ

• [56:00] Three levels of mastery & the power of incantations (from belief to embodiment)

• [61:00] Who the work is for: the religious, the spiritual, and the curious

• [64:00] Final note: “Life happens for you, not to you.”

• Website: http://DavidRichardsAuthor.com

• Instagram: @‌DavidRichardsAuthor

• Books:

  • Whiskey and Yoga

  • The Lighthouse Keeper

  • Love Letters to the Virgin Mary: The Resurrection of King David

  • Becoming One with Christ: The Lessons of King David

We also dig into shadow work, boundaries with family, and the difference between forgiving too soon and actually becoming whole. If you’ve ever felt stuck repeating patterns—or you’ve tried everything and nothing seemed to stick—this conversation offers a grounded way forward: simple tools, consistent practice, and the courage to tell the truth.

• [00:00] Becoming “spiritual people in physical bodies”; why language and behavior matter

• [03:00] Early home life, generational trauma, and the first cracks in the system

• [08:00] Abuse, dissociation, and how the body keeps score

• [12:30] Tap as first voice; when performance becomes protection

• [15:00] Why talk isn’t enough: shaking, breath, hydration, neurological protocols

• [19:00] Shadow work, ego death, and rebuilding discipline

• [22:00] Culture, religion, and the limits of “forgive and forget”

• [24:30] Addiction as unaddressed trauma; pioneers and influences

• [28:30] Kids, play, and screens: what the next generation needs

• [33:00] Past lives, programming, and widening the healing lens

• [40:00] PTSD in the body: feet, calves, and designing better protocols

• [42:00] The Guinness record—and when the healing made things look worse

• [47:00] No guru phase: listening within, then coaching others

• [49:00] Who shows up: common ages, patterns, and readiness

• [51:00] Boundaries vs. early forgiveness; becoming your own mother/father

• [58:00] Where to start: first-chapter download and next steps

• Website: Home - Heather Ann Ferri (first chapter download available)

• Books (upcoming): Three-part series on trauma healing with guided practices

• Influences mentioned: Alice Miller; Gabor Maté; body-based trauma modalities

Today, he runs Costard & Touchstone Productions and makes story podcasts as activism: How NOT to Make a Movie, The Donor: A DNA Horror Story, The Hall Closet, and Just the Photographer. This episode is a masterclass in creative integrity, personal recovery, and building work that answers to your soul—not the system.

• [00:00] “The truth will set you free” — telling your story to yourself first

• [03:00] Early wins, New York to LA, and meeting producer Gil Adler

• [08:00] Tales from the Crypt: franchise building and the birth of the Crypt Keeper

• [16:30] “It’s not TV, it’s HBO” — culture shift and creative freedom

• [19:30] Feature deal at Universal; Demon Knight lands, Dead Easy dies

• [22:00] The Bordello of Blood pivot: impossible timelines, miscasting, and studio politics

• [31:00] Fallout: a burned-out crew, shelved integrity, and a friendship broken

• [33:00] Two decades of depression and the secret underneath it

• [34:30] Mood stabilizer, therapy, and the moment the rage “clicked off”

• [35:30] Naming childhood abuse; why truth changes everything

• [37:00] Podcasting as catharsis: How NOT to Make a Movie reunites old partners

• [41:00] Owning IP and flipping the Hollywood dynamic

• [44:00] The slate: The Donor, The Hall Closet, Just the Photographer

• [56:00] “How to Live Bullshit Free”: purpose, bliss, and helping others

• Costard & Touchstone Productions: Home

• Podcasts: How NOT to Make a Movie • The Donor: A DNA Horror Story • The Hall Closet • Just the Photographer

• Blog/Book: How to Live Bullshit Free (in progress)

From stories of fatherlessness and male dropout to the overlooked emotional needs of boys, Kammer offers a perspective that challenges dominant gender narratives—without rejecting the value of feminism. We explore the male and female “power structures,” the cost of being excluded from emotional spaces, and how society might benefit from men reinventing their roles—not with rebellion, but with reintegration.

If you’ve ever questioned how we got here—or how we get out—this conversation might just shift your lens.

[00:00:00] Introduction to Jack Kammer and his lifelong work [00:03:00] Challenging the myth of universal male privilege [00:05:30] American vs. French Revolutions as metaphors for gender progress [00:07:00] Jack’s origin story: co-ed softball and aha moments [00:10:30] “The Misfortune 5 Million” and redefining power [00:16:00] The invisible female power structure and the Big Red Heart [00:21:00] The original radio show and what men called in about [00:24:00] Divorce, fatherlessness, and societal bias [00:30:00] Are we struggling because we’ve lost purpose? [00:34:00] Men’s opportunity to reinvent themselves (IBM analogy) [00:39:00] Raising kids, deserving vs. needing, and Vitamin M [00:46:00] Responsible motherhood and fatherhood—what’s missing [00:50:00] Reclaiming the value of masculinity and presence [00:55:00] The need for balance, not backlash [01:00:00] What men and boys are facing today [01:02:00] Final thoughts and the call for shared respect

• Male Friendly Media: Jack Kammer’s platform

• National Fatherhood Initiative: https://www.fatherhood.org

• Book: No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover

• Book references: The End of Men, Are Men Even Necessary?

In this powerful episode of A Joyful Rebellion, disability advocate and author Jennifer Gasner shares what it’s like to receive a life-altering diagnosis at 17—and then keep going. Diagnosed with Friedreich’s ataxia, a rare degenerative disorder, Jennifer was told she’d be in a wheelchair by 20 and gone by 25. She just celebrated her 51st birthday.

We talk about her memoir My Unexpected Life, the difference between the medical model and the social model of disability, and how Jennifer learned to embrace her identity and advocate for others. She shares stories of visibility, vulnerability, and an unexpected friendship with Dave Matthews that changed her life.

Whether you’re navigating disability or just want to better understand the world around you, this conversation is a powerful reminder that value isn’t tied to ability—it’s about being fully human.

• [00:00] Medical model vs. social model of disability

• [01:30] Meet Jennifer Gasner and My Unexpected Life

• [03:00] Diagnosed at 17: The moment that changed everything

• [05:00] A grim prognosis—and why it didn’t come true

• [07:00] From broadcaster dreams to reimagined purpose

• [09:30] Turning 25 and realizing: “I’m still here”

• [11:00] Why Jennifer wrote the book—and who it’s for

• [13:00] Structuring a memoir—and choosing what to include

• [14:30] Embracing the social model of disability

• [16:00] Vulnerability, visibility, and reader response

• [18:00] Judy Heumann, Rebecca Taussig, and other influences

• [20:00] FA’s wide spectrum—and how connection heals

• [22:00] Book events, disability orgs, and imposter syndrome

• [24:00] The Dave Matthews story: friendship and generosity

• [26:00] What nondisabled people often miss—and how to do better

• [28:00] Fear, socialization, and why low expectations persist

• [30:00] Changing the narrative—and being part of the shift

• [32:00] Final thoughts: Worthiness, identity, and perspective shifts

• Website: jennifergasner.com

• Book: My Unexpected Life: Finding Balance Beyond My Diagnosis

• Instagram: @‌jennygwriter

• Facebook: Jennifer Gasner, Author

• Recommended Books:

  • Demystifying Disability by Emily Ladau

  • Sitting Pretty by Rebekah Taussig

  • Being Heumann by Judy Heumann

  • The Anti-Ableist Manifesto by Tinu Abayomi-Paul

Steven Zeller is a serial entrepreneur, technologist, and futurist who’s built and lost businesses, found clarity in discomfort, and never stopped chasing what’s next. In this episode of A Joyful Rebellion, Steven shares how being broke, unsupported, and underestimated became the foundation for his most innovative work.

We talk about building your first million (and losing it fast), navigating entrepreneurship without a safety net, and how failure became his best mentor. Steven opens up about growing up without support, learning business in real time, and why your inner circle matters more than your pitch deck. Then we shift into the future: AI, genetic engineering, wearable tech, deepfakes, and the fine line between human potential and transhumanism.

This episode is a rare peek into the mind of someone who sees the future clearly—and isn’t afraid to walk straight into it.

• [00:00] Opening question: Is technology making us dumber—or just more reliant?

• [01:00] Meet Steven Zeller: serial entrepreneur, tech futurist, self-made risk-taker

• [03:00] From Midwest middle child to forging his own path—without college

• [06:00] Choosing neurosurgery… or entrepreneurship?

• [08:00] Breaking generational expectations without a support system

• [11:00] Early mistakes, bad influences, and learning business by doing

• [13:00] Making a million—and losing it fast

• [15:00] The “woe is me” moment, and what he did differently the second time

• [18:00] Why iteration matters more than perfection

• [21:00] Version 3.0 of your life—and why reinvention is your best strategy

• [24:00] AI, robotics, and why humans were built for more than monotony

• [28:00] The distinction between usable and distraction tech

• [33:00] How we think with tools—and why that isn’t always a bad thing

• [36:00] Deepfakes, disinformation, and the need for AI fact-checkers

• [39:00] What Steven’s most excited about: genetics, organ regeneration, and life extension

• [43:00] The ethics of editing embryos—and the danger of designer babies

• [45:00] Medical disruption vs. medical monetization

• [47:00] The idea of “downloading a cure” in the not-so-distant future

• [50:00] Transhumanism, identity, and what makes us human

• [52:00] Final thoughts: Better tech, better humans, and drawing the line

• Connect with Steven on LinkedIn 

• Topics mentioned: ChatGPT, Sora, Quantum Computing, Human Genome Project, IPS cells, Brain-computer interfaces

In this unforgettable episode of A Joyful Rebellion, Emmy Award-winner and Fearless Living founder Rhonda Britten shares the unthinkable story of what happened to her at age 14—and the decades-long journey that followed. After witnessing the murder-suicide of her parents, Rhonda spiraled into guilt, addiction, and self-destruction. But a failed suicide attempt became the moment she decided to start over. And she did.

Today, she’s helped thousands reclaim their lives using the Wheel of Fear and Wheel of Freedom, tools that help people stop trying harder and start transforming. We talk about emotional fear vs. physical fear, why most self-help doesn’t stick, and how real change comes through awareness, not willpower. Whether you’re overwhelmed, people-pleasing, or perfectionist-ing your way through life, this conversation will shift how you see yourself—and what you do next.

• [00:00] What fearlessness really is (it’s not skydiving)

• [02:00] Rhonda’s backstory: Emmy-winner, coach, and trauma survivor

• [04:30] The worst day of her life—and the guilt that followed

• [07:30] Alcohol, suicide attempts, and the turning point

• [09:00] The gold star calendar that changed everything

• [11:00] Why knowledge doesn’t equal transformation

• [13:00] What fear actually looks like in daily life

• [14:30] The fear quiz (and how you probably passed it 100%)

• [17:00] Reframing “problems” as fear responses

• [19:00] Identifying your core fear—and how it runs the show

• [22:00] The Wheel of Fear vs. Wheel of Freedom

• [25:00] How shame melts when fear is named

• [28:00] Healing, regret, and radical self-forgiveness

• [31:00] Rhonda’s essential nature: authenticity

• [34:00] Generational trauma and fear in your DNA

• [36:30] Why your worst behavior doesn’t define you

• [38:00] Age, awareness, and how fast change can happen

• [40:00] The #1 fear people don’t talk about

• [43:00] Coaching that actually works—and why

• [46:00] Stretch, Risk, or Die: tools for transformation

• [49:00] Fear as your outdated protector (and how to retrain it)

• [52:00] The difference between venting and complaining

• [55:00] Building sovereignty and agency—one choice at a time

• [58:00] What healthy people really look like—and how to find them

• [01:00:00] Final takeaway: There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s just fear.

• Website: fearlessliving.org

• Free Video Class: Stretch Risk or Die | Fearless Living

• Book: Fearless Living by Rhonda Britten

• Instagram: @‌rhondabritten

In this powerful episode of A Joyful Rebellion, writer, professor, and father Lane Igoudin shares the deeply human story behind his memoir A Family, Maybe: Two Dads, Two Babies, and the Court Cases That Brought Us Together. Lane and his husband Jonathan were among the first openly gay couples to adopt through the foster system in Los Angeles County. What followed was a three-year legal and emotional rollercoaster that tested their resolve, their relationship, and their sense of justice.

We talk about the failures of the child welfare system, the invisible labor of parenting under legal threat, and what it really means to create family—not just legally, but spiritually and emotionally. Lane opens up about raising two daughters, navigating stigma, building community, and the quiet strength it takes to hold your family together when others have the power to pull it apart.

• [00:00] Grafting onto a new family tree: How love can create roots

• [01:00] Meet Lane Igoudin: Writer, father, and accidental memoirist

• [03:00] The first chapter: curbside delivery and becoming instant parents

• [06:00] Birth, sepsis, and a cooler bag full of formula

• [08:30] Parenting under legal threat: Living through uncertainty

• [10:00] Two babies, no safety net, and a perfect storm of life transitions

• [12:00] Why Lane always knew he wanted to be a father

• [14:00] The landscape of early LGBTQ+ adoptions in the 2000s

• [16:00] Legal limbo: Being married in one state, single in another

• [18:00] Parallel paths: Parenting, career change, and teaching

• [20:00] The emotional cost of parenting through a courtroom

• [23:00] Denied status, silenced voices, and fighting for your family

• [25:00] The problem with “best interests” being decided 30 miles away

• [27:00] What true attachment looks like—and what disruption could do

• [30:00] Building bridges: Allies, moms, and chosen community

• [32:00] Identity, culture, and raising bicultural kids with care

• [34:00] What the girls know, and what they want to know, about their past

• [36:00] Reactions to the book—from readers, family, and adoptees

• [39:00] Why Lane wrote the story he never planned to write

• Lane’s Website: http://laneigoudin.com

• Book: A Family, Maybe (Available via Amazon, Bookshop, and his website)

• Publisher: Ooligan Press, Portland State University

• Instagram: @laneigoudin

• Facebook: Lane Igoudin

Ray Hartjen is a writer, musician, father, and cancer patient who didn’t just survive a diagnosis—he rewrote the narrative. After learning he had multiple myeloma, an incurable blood cancer, Ray chose to reframe instead of retreat. In this episode of A Joyful Rebellion, we explore how a routine blood test cracked his world open—and how he rebuilt it with music, meaning, and the mantra, If not now, when?

We talk about the emotional toll of illness, the power of perspective, and the roles we take on when everything changes. Ray shares what it means to show up fully, how support groups shaped his recovery, and why he believes in “punching the day in the face.” Whether you're facing a life detour or just waiting to start the next chapter, this conversation is a powerful reminder that clarity often follows chaos—and it’s never too late to begin again.

• [00:00] Opening reflection: Clarity after crisis

• [01:00] Meet Ray Hartjen: writer, musician, father—and cancer patient

• [03:00] A routine blood test leads to a life-changing diagnosis

• [06:00] What 90% bone marrow cancer looks like when you feel “fine”

• [08:00] Reframing the story: Same roles, new lens

• [10:00] The “mixing board” model of healing: mind, body, spirit

• [12:00] The timeline exercise that redefined his urgency

• [15:00] “If not now, when?”—and the motto that lit a fire

• [17:00] Book 1: Immaculate and the Steelers’ role in Pittsburgh’s revival

• [20:00] Why big dreams require small steps

• [22:00] Advice for anyone with a full journal and an unfinished dream

• [24:00] What support groups reveal about the healing journey

• [26:00] From patient to advocate: reaching back to pull others forward

• [28:00] Hesitations, control, and why vulnerability builds strength

• [30:00] What not to say—and what to say instead when offering help

• [33:00] Book 2: The Indy 500 and chasing long-held passions

• [35:00] Making music, dreaming bigger, and playing Vegas

• [37:00] The hardest conversation: telling his daughter

• [40:00] Grace, grit, and why the world needs your story

• [43:00] Final encouragement: “You are stronger than you think”

• Website: rayhartjen.com

• Book: Me, Myself, and My Multiple Myeloma

• Book: Immaculate: How the Steelers Saved Pittsburgh

• Book: The Indy 500: A Year-Long Quest… (coming soon)

• Connect on social: @‌rayhartjen (except TikTok: @‌rayhartjen5)

• Email: rayhartjen@gmail.com

Instead of focusing on traits or labels, Eric’s system centers on values, using animal archetypes grouped into four core packs: Gatherers, Hunters, Smiths, and Shamans. With over 50,000 people personally profiled, Eric shares how understanding your true motivation—not just your behavior—can reframe everything from your relationships to your career choices.

Whether you’ve always felt a little “off-type” or you’re deep into self-discovery, this episode is a funny, thoughtful, and wildly insightful look at what really drives us.

• [00:00] What most personality tests get wrong—and why values matter more

• [03:00] Eric’s origin story: RadioShack computers and personality geekery

• [06:00] Superficial traits vs. deeper drives: A shift in methodology

• [08:00] Why Eric uses animal archetypes—and what makes them stick

• [10:00] The four core packs: Gatherers, Hunters, Smiths, and Shamans

• [12:30] Using values to communicate more effectively (especially in school)

• [14:00] How personality typing transforms marriages and partnerships

• [15:30] Nature vs. Nurture—and the effects of parenting styles

• [18:00] Gatherer overconfidence, shaman midlife clarity, and personality pivots

• [20:00] Why you can’t “change” your type—and what happens when you try

• [23:00] The burnout factor: When teachers’ personalities clash with systems

• [25:00] Magic, personality, and breaking assumptions

• [27:00] When others know you better than you know yourself

• [30:00] The least common types—and what makes them powerful

• [32:00] How to find your type (and why it should be fun)

• [34:00] Energy, intuition, and reading people in the wild

• [36:00] Why Hemingway isn’t for everyone—and how writing reflects values

• [38:00] A final takeaway: The power of self-honesty and personal rebellion

• Website: ProjectYOUtopia.com

• Book: The Power of Personality by Eric G

• Free personality test: Available on Eric’s site

• Eric’s social links: Included on the Project YOUtopia website

We explore the difference between people who move forward and those who stay stuck, why acceptance is the real first step toward healing, and how a slice of cake might be all it takes to shift your mindset. Whether you're recovering from loss, trying to find meaning in the mess, or just want to feel a little more like yourself again—this conversation is packed with insight, humor, and hope.

• [00:00] Introduction: When life knocks you down, then what?

• [01:00] Meet Andrew Matthews: The decision that changed everything

• [03:00] The happiness myth—and the truth he discovered at 25

• [06:30] Rejection, risk, and the cartoon book that went global

• [08:15] What happy people have in common (hint: it’s not stuff)

• [10:45] The cake cartoon and the power of what we focus on

• [12:00] Lessons from people with “bigger problems and better attitudes”

• [14:15] Why bouncing back starts with acceptance

• [17:00] The trap of “it shouldn’t have happened”—and how to move on

• [19:00] Resilience, stoicism, and choosing how we interpret events

• [21:30] Nick Vujicic, country western songs, and perspective shifts

• [24:00] When self-help stops working—and what to do next

• [26:00] The problem with overthinking and the gift of self-awareness

• [28:00] Social media, short attention spans, and the myth of comparison

• [30:00] Decision vs. transformation: the real turning point

• [32:00] Different books for different seasons of hardship

• [34:00] Supporting people around you without pushing them

• [36:00] Being the best example—not the loudest voice

• [38:00] Real-life stories: from broke and hopeless to joyful and thriving

• [42:00] Start where you are—there’s no other place to begin

• [44:00] Where to find Andrew’s books and newsletters

• [45:00] Final thoughts and thank yous

• Andrew’s Website: andrewmatthews.com

• Books by Andrew Matthews:

  • Being Happy

  • Bouncing Back

  • Happiness in Hard Times

  • Follow Your Heart

• Audiobooks available on Audible

• Andrew’s newsletter (sign up on his website)

In this episode of A Joyful Rebellion, host James Walters talks with bestselling author, business strategist, and resilience coach Rhonda Parker Taylor. Her debut novel Crossroads is more than a legal thriller—it’s a mirror for self-reflection. Rhonda shares how each of her flawed-yet-relatable characters embodies a different dimension of imbalance, from workaholism and grief to loyalty and burnout. The plot may be fiction, but the emotional truths are very real.

Together, James and Rhonda explore the invisible tug-of-war so many of us feel between responsibility and self-worth—and why joy often takes a back seat. They unpack Rhonda’s powerful “13 Dimensions of Life Balance” framework, the quiet rebellion of saying yes to what lights you up, and how seemingly small daily choices—like cutting up fruit—can become acts of self-love.

Rhonda also opens up about her decades-long journey to publishing Crossroads, how her sister’s blunt wisdom reignited her dream, and why she believes legacy is built in everyday moments. Her next project? A sequel and a series of personal development books rooted in the lives of her characters.

Whether you're craving change, feeling out of sync, or just love a good story with soul, this episode will help you see your own life through a new lens.

• [00:00:00] Welcome and Rhonda’s Daily Joy Practice

• [00:01:00] Introducing Crossroads—a Suspense Novel with a Purpose

• [00:04:00] Finding Joy in the Midst of Struggle

• [00:07:00] Why Fiction Can Be a Mirror for Your Own Life

• [00:11:00] The 13 Dimensions of Life Balance

• [00:17:00] Vulnerability, Success, and the Fear of Rewriting Your Story

• [00:25:00] Small Practices That Create Big Shifts

• [00:29:00] Balancing Joy with Real Life

• [00:35:00] What’s Next: Life Balance Workbook, Resilience Guide & Sequel

• [00:38:00] Rhonda’s Final Wisdom: Extend the Moments That Make You Smile

• Rhonda’s website: Suspense Thriller Crossroads by Rhonda Parker Taylor -

• Crossroads by Rhonda Parker Taylor – Available on Amazon

• Follow Rhonda on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn

What started as physical rehab soon turned into an identity shift. Austin shares how daily, uncomfortable action rebuilt his confidence, how self-discipline sparked real transformation, and why most people stay stuck not because life is “bad”—but because it’s “not that bad.”

They talk about the Region Beta Paradox, how to create a “brand book” for your future self, and why belief only comes after action. If you’ve ever said, “I just need to get motivated,” this episode is the wake-up call—and the roadmap—you’ve been waiting for.

Episode Title: From Hospital Bed to Mindset Coach: Austin Page on Rebuilding Your Life

Chapter Markers:

1. [00:00] The Moment Everything Changed – A drunk driving accident and the wake-up call

2. [02:00] Hospital to Rehab – Facing reality and getting uncomfortable

3. [04:30] Resistance Meets Rubber Bands – Building strength from rock bottom

4. [06:00] From Bedbound to Walking Again – Why physical progress fuels mental change

5. [08:00] Building Self-Belief One Day at a Time

6. [10:00] The Region Beta Paradox – “It’s not that bad” is a trap

7. [12:30] Writing Your Own Brand Book – Identity, habits, and standards

8. [14:30] What the Future Version of You Would Do

9. [17:00] Action Before Belief – Why confidence follows reps

10. [19:00] Attracting What You Want by Becoming It

11. [21:00] Inputs = Outputs – Energy in, energy out

12. [24:00] Saying No & Losing Friends – Navigating social friction during growth

13. [27:00] The Alcohol Test – What people say when you start to change

14. [29:00] Deposits or Deductions – Every choice adds up

15. [34:00] Presence & Pride – If you’re not proud of your presence, you can’t be present

16. [37:00] Who > How – The person you want to be already knows what to do

17. [43:00] The Cornfield Analogy – Progress grows where belief used to be.

• Instagram: @‌apageman

• Coaching Website: Flow Coaching

• Free Mindset Resources: Shared regularly on his Instagram Stories

• *DMs open for coaching inquiries and collaboration

In this bold and eye-opening episode, James sits down with Dr. Fred Moss, a former psychiatrist who spent 45 years inside the mental health system—only to walk away. Known today as The UNDoctor, Fred now helps people “UNdiagnose, UNmedicate, and UNindoctrinate” themselves through creativity, communication, and conscious choice.

We talk about the origins of the modern psychiatric model, the myth of the chemical imbalance, and why discomfort isn’t a disorder—it’s part of being human. Fred shares how 100,000+ prescriptions and 30,000 patients eventually pushed him to break the cycle, and how healing actually begins when we stop trying to be “fixed.”

This episode is for anyone who’s ever questioned their diagnosis, their medication—or what it really means to be okay.

Episode Title: Welcome to Humanity: Dr. Fred Moss on Psychiatric Truth and Creative Healing

Chapter Markers:

1. [00:00] What If the Problem Isn’t You? – Redefining the “disorder”

2. [03:00] Growing Up in Chaos & Learning to Communicate – Fred’s early love of human connection

3. [08:00] A Job That Was Supposed to Last 3 Weeks – How a childcare gig changed everything

4. [10:00] The Birth of a Healer – First encounters with barbaric psychiatry

5. [13:00] Why Prozac Changed Everything – The rise of biological psychiatry

6. [15:00] The Thousand-Cut Career – When prescribing becomes soul-sacrifice

7. [17:00] The Razor Blade in the Band-Aid – Medication as symptom generator

8. [20:00] The Mindset That Keeps People Stuck – Why people fight to keep their diagnosis

9. [22:00] Becoming The UNDoctor – Shifting from psychiatrist to life coach

10. [26:00] On Anxiety, Sunday Scaries & Social Media – Real talk on what’s “normal”

11. [29:00] 20 Ways to Manage Discomfort – Non-pharma tools for being human

12. [33:00] The Power of Creativity – Art, gardening, dancing & expression as healing

13. [36:00] Agency & Sovereignty – The reminder no one gives you

14. [40:00] “I Just Want to Be Better” – Why medication won’t get you there

15. [45:00] The Starting Line – Step one for those wanting a different way

16. [48:00] Welcome to Humanity – The messy truth and beautiful possibility

• Fred’s Website: welcometohumanity.net

• Books by Dr. Fred Moss:

  • Find Your True Voice

  • Creative Eight

• TEDx Talk & Speaking Engagements: Available via his website

• The UNDoctor Podcast: Streaming everywhere

• Follow Fred on Instagram: Fred Moss

Ryan’s journey started with a one-year RV trip across the U.S., but it didn’t stop there. From glacier hikes in New Zealand to motorbiking through the mountains of Vietnam, he’s built a life where work and wanderlust coexist. In this episode, he shares how he made the leap to location independence, the mindset shifts that made it possible, and the practical steps anyone can take to explore the digital nomad life—even if they don’t have a remote job yet.

If you’ve ever felt like there has to be more than the 9-to-5 grind, Ryan’s story will inspire you to rethink what’s possible—and maybe even book that one-way ticket.

Episode Title: From Fast Food to Freedom: Ryan Mellon’s Digital Nomad Life

Chapter Markers:

1. [00:00] Welcome to Bali – Ryan checks in from halfway across the world.

2. [01:30] The Breaking Point – Working 14-hour days for a decade.

3. [03:00] Costa Rica Changed Everything – A two-week solo trip that sparked it all.

4. [05:30] RV Life Begins – One year, 23 states, and a lot of lessons.

5. [07:00] The Real Estate Revelation – Making remote income on the road.

6. [09:00] Taking It Global – New Zealand and the birth of a nomad.

7. [11:00] Becoming The Digital Nomad Coach – Helping others take the leap.

8. [13:00] Minimalism and the Sailboat Life – Why less stuff = more freedom.

9. [16:00] Mindset Roadblocks – Common fears and how to overcome them.

10. [18:00] The Truth About Cost – Living abroad can be cheaper than home.

11. [21:00] Epic Adventures – Glacier hikes, motorbike tours, and unexpected karaoke.

12. [24:00] Family, Friends & FOMO – What people really think of his lifestyle.

13. [27:00] Risk vs. Regret – Leaving the comfort zone behind.

14. [30:00] How to Get Started – Ryan’s advice for aspiring nomads.

15. [32:00] Final Thoughts – The world is waiting—just do it.

• Website: TheDigitalNomadCoach.com

• Free Guide: 7 Ways to Become a Digital Nomad — Available on his website

• Socials: 

  Instagram / Facebook / YouTube: @‌thedigitalnomadcoach
• Podcast: Digital Nomad Nation – Now streaming everywhere

In this episode, James sits down with Marcia Heath, a former publishing professional and ghostwriter turned author and documentarian, to explore what it really means to rewrite your story. After decades of editing others' words and chasing what she thought was success, Marcia's body hit the brakes—literally—with a rare case of transient global amnesia. That pause led to an entirely different kind of life.

On a reset trip to Aruba, a conversation under a mango tree sparked her new project: a book and now a documentary about two humble surf shop founders who prioritized friendship, community, and joy over growth and glory. What began as curiosity became a full creative immersion—and ultimately a blueprint for Marcia’s own reinvention.

We talk about burnout, accountability, creative transformation, and how letting go of perfection can lead to a more present and meaningful life. If you've ever felt the pull to do something different—or just to feel more like you again—this episode is a warm, funny, and inspiring invitation to pause, reset, and start fresh.

Episode Title: The Book Under the Mango Tree: Marcia Heath on Simplicity, Story, and Second Acts

Chapter Markers:

1. [00:00] A Rare Wake-Up Call – Transient global amnesia and what it revealed

2. [03:00] The “Dream Job” That Wasn’t – Burnout disguised as success

3. [05:30] The Aruba Reset – A chance conversation that changed everything

4. [07:30] The Surf Shop Mystery – What made it work for 20+ years?

5. [10:00] Resistance from the Rebels – When the story subjects say no

6. [12:00] Filming the Documentary – Behind the scenes of reluctant stardom

7. [15:00] Malcolm Gladwell & Bula Surf’s Secret Sauce – Autonomy, challenge, and validation

8. [17:00] A Life Rewritten – From ghostwriter to author

9. [20:00] The Myth of the Happy Finish Line – What the book box moment actually felt like

10. [22:00] Building a Creative Team – Why accountability > inspiration

11. [24:00] Joy as a Side Effect – Letting go of the pursuit

12. [27:00] Tuesdays with Maury Vibes – Connection and purpose over polish

13. [30:00] Piano, Play, and Reclaiming Joy – The creative ripple effect

14. [33:00] Subtraction for Success – Pruning projects and friendships

15. [35:00] Don’t Judge a Book by Its Surf Shop – Why this story is about all of us

• Website: littlegiantbook.com

• Free Guide: Build Your Own Dream – Available on her website

• Book: Little Giant: The Story of Aruba’s Surf Shop and the Rebels Who Built It

• Documentary (coming soon): Updates via email subscription on her site

In this powerful episode of A Joyful Rebellion, James talks with author and nonprofit founder John David Graham about his journey from career detours, near-homelessness, and restless searching, to building Good Samaritan Home, a community-based housing network that’s helped over 2,500 men and women reenter society after prison.

John shares stories from the front lines of restoration: what he’s learned about second chances, the systems stacked against the formerly incarcerated, and how faith, kindness, and snowblowers can sometimes move mountains. His memoir, Running as Fast as I Can, threads through this conversation as a roadmap for hope—both earned and extended.

If you’ve ever wondered how you can make a real difference, this episode will show you how small acts of courage and kindness can ripple outward, changing everything.

Episode Title: Running as Fast as I Can: John David Graham on Second Chances and Redemption

Chapter Markers:

1. [00:00] Meet John David Graham: From chaos to community

2. [02:00] The Seeds of Good Samaritan Home: A Victorian house and a vision

3. [05:00] Life Before Purpose: Detroit, odd jobs, and instability

4. [08:00] Reggie’s Arrival: The first resident and community resistance

5. [11:00] Suing the City and Shoveling Sidewalks: Kindness over conflict

6. [13:00] Funding Faith: How the program scaled house by house

7. [15:00] Understanding Addiction & Reentry: Why people go back

8. [18:00] What Returning Citizens Really Need: Listening, dignity, jobs

9. [22:00] The Importance of Showing Up: Why employers say yes

10. [26:00] Walking with a Limp: Rehabilitation vs. Habilitation

11. [29:00] How the Book Came Together: The real stories behind the fiction

12. [33:00] Why Community Still Matters: Disconnection in modern life

13. [36:00] Small Acts of Kindness: What you can do today

14. [41:00] Trying Something New at 76: Becoming an “actor” for a day

15. [43:00] Where to Find the Book & Get Involved

After 40 years of yo-yo dieting, Renée discovered the root of her struggle: emotional eating. Today, she helps clients worldwide face their emotional triggers head-on and build sustainable, compassionate relationships with food. In this conversation, Renée shares how understanding her Enneagram type and uncovering early emotional connections to food changed everything.

We dive into how past memories shape present cravings, why high achievers often miss the emotional cues, and how simple daily practices—like keeping your goal jeans visible—can create lasting change. Renée also breaks down the difference between therapy and coaching, why self-awareness is the true game-changer, and how to set up your environment for success.

If you’re tired of diets that don’t stick, this conversation is your permission slip to try something different.

Episode Title: Face Your Stuff, Don’t Stuff Your Face: Renee Jones on Emotional Eating

Chapter Markers:

1. [00:00] It’s Not Just the Food: Understanding what’s really driving you to the fridge.

2. [01:00] Renee’s 40-Year Diet Yo-Yo: The long road to awareness.

3. [03:00] Dieting Since Age 10: Early patterns and generational cycles.

4. [06:00] Closet Full of Sizes: The reality of yo-yo dieting.

5. [07:00] Emotional Eating Defined: Awareness is everything.

6. [10:00] Captain Crunch & Comfort: How early memories shape cravings.

7. [13:00] Peanut Butter & Love: Emotional connections to food.

8. [16:00] Beyond Quick Fixes: Why weight-loss shots and surgery don’t solve the real issue.

9. [18:00] Awareness First: The power of recognizing emotional eating.

10. [20:00] Accountability Hacks: Environment and setting yourself up for success.

11. [24:00] The Pendulum Effect: Overachievers and overcompensating.

12. [26:00] Enneagram & Emotional Eating: Personality-informed approaches.

13. [29:00] Gender Differences: How men and women process food emotionally.

14. [32:00] Tastes Change: Why your cravings shift over time.

15. [35:00] The Breakthrough: Choosing yourself over the food.

16. [39:00] Finding What Works for You: Personalized nutrition.

17. [43:00] Myth Busting: Fat isn’t the enemy.

18. [45:00] Final Thoughts: Simple steps toward lasting change.

• Renee’s Website: packyourownbag.com

• Email Renee: renee@packyourownbag.com

• TEDx Talk: Search "Renee Jones TEDx Emotional Eating"

• Free Affirmations and Resources: packyourownbag.com

Erica shares how a return home during her father’s heart surgery rekindled her purpose in marketing, inspired her to tell her family's immigrant story, and ultimately led to the creation of a children’s book, a coloring book, and a video series celebrating family-owned pizzerias.

From her grandfather’s journey from coal miner to pizzeria founder, to the viral success of their pizza-cutting videos, this conversation is packed with themes of resilience, legacy, and the power of doing work that truly matters.

A Story About Pizza: Erica D’Arcangelo on Legacy, Risk & Reinvention

1. [00:00] Intro & Pizza Warning – Get a snack first!

2. [01:00] Coming Home – Erica returns to help her dad after heart surgery.

3. [03:00] Rebuilding the Family Business – A pizzeria restored and a legacy reignited.

4. [05:00] TikTok and a Million Views – The moment a pizza video changed everything.

5. [07:00] The Real Story Begins – A trip to Italy and rediscovering heritage.

6. [08:30] Coal Mines and Dreams – Her grandfather’s incredible immigration story.

7. [10:00] Finding Purpose in Marketing Again – From burnout to meaning.

8. [12:00] Launching the Book and Video Projects – Creativity fueled by connection.

9. [14:00] The Origin of the Pizzeria – Buying a building and baking a dream.

10. [17:00] Anchored by Legacy – What the business means to the family.

11. [20:00] The Pineapple Debate – The DiAngelo stance.

12. [23:00] The Evolution of Pizza and Crust Talk – Mike’s Pie vs. OG style.

13. [25:00] Lessons from Writing a Book – What Erica learned in the process.

14. [27:00] A True Joyful Rebellion – Turning family history into personal purpose.

• Book Website: AStoryAboutPizza.com

• The Pizzeria: Darc’s Pizza – darcspizza.com

• Follow on Instagram: @‌astoryaboutpizza

• Children’s Book & Coloring Book: Available now on AStoryAboutPizza.com

• TikTok: @‌astoryaboutpizza

• Recommended Pizza Spot in FL: ROA Pizza, Clearwater/Tampa area

Anna Maria shares her journey of international adoption, the emotional rollercoaster of welcoming her daughter into the family, and how the experience led her to write memoirs and children’s books designed to help families navigate adoption with understanding and compassion.

If you're an adoptive parent, considering adoption, or simply interested in the complexities of family, identity, and belonging, this episode is a must-listen.

"Adoption, Identity, and Healing: A Conversation with Anna Maria DiDio"

1. [00:00] Introduction – Meet Anna Maria DiDio and her journey into adoption.

2. [02:00] A Life-Changing Decision – How international adoption became part of her family’s story.

3. [05:30] The Myth of Adoption – Why adoption is more complex than people assume.

4. [08:00] Facing the Reality of Trauma – How early separation impacts adopted children.

5. [12:00] Navigating Identity and Culture – Helping adopted children connect with their roots.

6. [17:00] Parenting Through Challenges – Emotional struggles, school adjustments, and family dynamics.

7. [22:00] Turning Pain into Purpose – How journaling led to a career as an adoption advocate and author.

8. [26:00] Advice for Families Considering Adoption – The lessons Anna Maria wishes she had known.

9. [30:00] Final Thoughts & Where to Connect – Books, resources, and how to stay in touch with Anna Maria.

• Anna Maria DiDio’s Website: amdidio.com

• Download the Free Affirmation Sheet for Kids: Click Here

• Books by Anna Maria DiDio:

  • Love at the Border: An Adoption Adventure (Memoir)

  • The Life Adventure Series (Children’s Books on Adoption)

• Follow Anna Maria on Instagram: @‌amdidio_author

Ethan shares the journey behind his latest project, Backyard Desert, a film tackling the realities of immigration and border patrol from a human-centered perspective. They dive into the creative process behind independent filmmaking, the challenges of working outside the Hollywood system, and why supporting independent artists is more crucial than ever.

If you’re passionate about film, activism, or simply the power of storytelling to shape the world, this episode is a must-listen.

"Filmmaking with a Purpose: Ethan Felizzari-Castillo on Cause-Based Storytelling"

1. [00:00] Introduction – Meet Ethan Felizzari-Castillo and his mission-driven approach to film.

2. [04:00] Filmmaking as a Tool for Change – Why stories have the power to shape perspectives.

3. [07:30] The Journey of Backyard Desert – How a play became a powerful film about immigration.

4. [12:00] Independent Filmmaking vs. Hollywood – The creative freedom and challenges of working outside the system.

5. [16:30] The Art of Storytelling in Film – Balancing emotion, perspective, and impact.

6. [22:00] Behind the Scenes of Indie Film Production – The reality of bringing a film to life.

7. [27:00] Advice for Aspiring Filmmakers – How to get started in the world of independent film.

8. [31:00] How to Support Backyard Desert – Where to follow the project and get involved.

• Follow Backyard Desert: @‌BackyardDesert on Instagram, Threads, and TikTok

• CK Productions Website: https://www.ckproductionsnewyork.com/film 

• YouTube Channel for CK Films: CK Productions NY

• Ethan Felizzari-Castillo on Instagram: @‌EthanFelizzari

• Watch CK Productions’ Short Films: CK Films on Vimeo

In this episode, Annie shares how she went from bit-part actress to viral sensation, the lessons she’s learned about storytelling, rejection, and reinvention, and why she believes embracing your true self is the key to success. We also dig into her new book, The Book of Annie: Humor, Heart, and Chutzpah from an Accidental Influencer, and her thoughts on aging, money, and why everyone needs a little rebellion in their lives.

Whether you’re 25 or 85, this conversation will leave you laughing, inspired, and maybe even rethinking your own next big leap.

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• Annie Korzen’s Website: AnnieKorzen.com

• Buy The Book of Annie: Amazon

• YouTube Channel: Annie Korzen Videos

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1. [00:00] Introduction – Meet Annie Korzen and her unexpected journey to viral fame.

2. [03:00] Embracing Change in Your 80s – How TikTok transformed Annie’s career.

3. [07:00] The Power of Saying “Yeah, Why Not?” – Why taking risks leads to unexpected rewards.

4. [12:00] Life Lessons from Hollywood and Seinfeld – How Annie’s iconic TV role shaped her career.

5. [18:00] Storytelling, Rejection, and Resilience – The craft of storytelling and why persistence matters.

6. [24:00] Ageism, Social Media, and Finding Your Voice – Annie’s take on how older voices are gaining traction.

7. [31:00] The Book of Annie – What inspired Annie’s memoir and the stories inside.

8. [37:00] Breaking Free from Society’s Expectations – Owning who you are at any age.

9. [42:00] Final Thoughts & Where to Find Annie – Links, social media, and how to get the book.

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Rodney walks us through the moment of inspiration that led to his novel, how he overcame imposter syndrome, and the writing strategies that helped him bring his book to life. He shares insights on crafting realistic police procedurals, the importance of self-imposed deadlines, and how he balances his creative work with his career. He also discusses his approach to self-publishing, working with editors, and building a writing platform ahead of his upcoming retirement.

If you've ever wanted to write a book but struggled with getting started, this episode is packed with actionable advice and motivation.

[00:00:00] Introduction

• Welcome to A Joyful Rebellion
• James introduces guest R.L. Carpentier

[00:01:00] The Inspiration for Our Lady of the Overlook

• Rodney’s background in law enforcement and literature
• How a late-night shift sparked the idea for his novel

[00:03:30] From College Writer to Police Officer

• Studying English and idolizing the Lost Generation authors
• How he drifted away from writing when he started his career

[00:06:00] The Turning Point: Why Writing Had to Happen

• Losing his father and reevaluating his life path
• The moment he decided: I have to do this for me

[00:09:00] Learning the Craft & Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

• Discovering storytelling techniques like Save the Cat
• Finding editors and trusting the revision process

[00:12:00] Self-Publishing: The Reality of Making a Book Happen

• The step-by-step process of hiring editors, designers, and proofreaders
• Attending writing conferences to build confidence and connections

[00:18:00] Realistic Crime Writing: Blending Fact with Fiction

• How Rodney balances procedural accuracy with compelling storytelling
• Navigating what can and cannot be shared from law enforcement experience

[00:22:00] The Evolution of a Trilogy

• How Our Lady of the Overlook expanded into a three-book series
• What’s coming in books two and three

[00:26:00] Financing & Marketing a Self-Published Book

• How Rodney used overtime work to fund his debut novel
• Considering Kickstarter for future projects

[00:30:00] Building a Writing Career Before Retirement

• Planning ahead for his post-law enforcement creative career
• The importance of having a platform before transitioning careers

[00:34:00] Final Thoughts & Advice

• The philosophy that shaped his approach: Early is on time, on time is late, late is not acceptable
• Where to find Our Lady of the Overlook and connect with Rodney

Guest Website & Newsletter Signup: rlcarpentierwriter.com Buy Our Lady of the Overlook: Available on Amazon & Direct from Author Follow Rodney on Patreon: (Link to be provided by guest)

In this insightful episode of A Joyful Rebellion, host James sits down with Kareen Aristide, a human behavior consultant and mental health advocate, to discuss the profound difference between happiness and joy. Kareen shares her personal journey—from a thriving career to a life-altering crash that forced her to reevaluate success, purpose, and well-being.

She introduces the DISC personality model, explaining how self-awareness can help individuals break free from societal expectations, avoid burnout, and make career and life choices that align with their true nature.

They dive deep into why high-achievers often struggle with fulfillment, the dangers of overachievement, and the warning signs that signal an impending crash.

Kareen also provides actionable advice on how to cultivate joy, set boundaries, and align personal and professional growth with individual strengths. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a high-performer, or someone feeling stuck, this episode will inspire you to rethink success and embrace a more intentional, fulfilling path.

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Guest Website: KareenAristide.com Free DISC Training & Resources: SleekBio.com/KareenAristide

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Tune in to learn how to shift from doing to being—and discover a more joyful, authentic way to live.

[00:00:00] Introduction

• Welcome to A Joyful Rebellion
• James introduces guest Kareen Aristide
• The importance of distinguishing between joy and happiness

[00:02:00] Understanding Societal Expectations

• Why success doesn’t always equal fulfillment
• The weight of external expectations from family, society, and culture

[00:03:30] Kareen’s Personal Journey

• How a career in counseling led to self-discovery
• Her transition from employment counselor to mompreneur
• The car crash that changed everything

[00:07:00] The Concept of "Being Before Doing"

• Why high achievers often lose themselves in their work
• The importance of self-awareness in creating a meaningful life

[00:10:00] Exploring the DISC Personality Model

• Overview of DISC personality types (D – Dominant, I – Inspiring, S – Supportive, C – Cautious)
• How understanding personality helps in relationships and careers
• How Kareen used DISC to improve her marriage and business

[00:18:00] Applying DISC to Work and Life

• How personality impacts leadership, delegation, and productivity
• Why burnout often stems from operating outside of your natural strengths
• How entrepreneurs can balance drive vs. sustainability

[00:25:00] The Warning Signs of Burnout

• What most people ignore before they crash
• How to recognize when your body and mind are warning you
• The role of journaling and self-reflection in staying aligned

[00:30:00] Managing Mental Health as an Entrepreneur

• Why entrepreneurs rarely ask for help until it’s too late
• The importance of therapy, self-care, and intentional pauses
• How Kareen integrates mental health and personal growth in her work

[00:36:00] Cultivating Joy Over Happiness

• Why joy is a state of being, while happiness is fleeting
• How to cultivate long-term joy despite temporary challenges
• Finding fulfillment in everyday moments

[00:42:00] Final Thoughts & Takeaways

• Recap of key insights
• Where to find Kareen’s free DISC resources and training
• Kareen’s upcoming book on mental health and personality styles

https://ajoyfulrebellion.com/

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In this inspiring episode of A Joyful Rebellion, James chats with Kim Rahir, a 60-year-old mother of three, European Masters Weightlifting Champion, and health coach. After being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis 10 years ago, Kim defied conventional advice and used strength training to reclaim her health and independence.

Kim shares her journey from paralysis and uncertainty to empowerment and strength, discussing how her personal rebellion against her diagnosis transformed her life. She now dedicates her work to helping women in midlife rediscover their health, confidence, and resilience through fitness and strength training.

Whether you’re navigating a health challenge or simply want to feel stronger and more in control of your life, Kim’s story offers actionable insights and motivation to take charge of your well-being.

1. [00:00] Introduction: Meet Kim Rahir, her inspiring bio, and the importance of joyful rebellion.

2. [03:00] Receiving the MS Diagnosis: Facing darkness, fear, and redefining life after a life-altering diagnosis.

3. [07:30] Choosing Strength: How Kim began strength training to take back her power and rebuild trust in her body.

4. [12:00] From Gym Newbie to Champion: The journey to becoming a European Masters Weightlifting Champion.

5. [16:00] Helping Women in Midlife Thrive: Kim’s work with women over 40 and why strength training is essential.

6. [20:30] Breaking Myths Around Women and Fitness: Addressing fears about “bulking up” and starting slow.

7. [25:00] The Power of Simple, Sustainable Habits: Why small steps and consistency make all the difference.

8. [31:00] Nutrition and Common Misconceptions: Dispelling food myths and how to reconnect with your body.

9. [36:00] Finding Your Pivotal Moment: Why mindset shifts are key to starting a health journey.

10. [40:00] Final Advice: Kim’s empowering message—ask yourself, “What can I do now?”

In this episode of A Joyful Rebellion, James sits down with Jason Lange, men’s guide, coach, and founder of Evolutionary Men. Together, they explore the modern challenges men face and why men’s groups are becoming a powerful solution for personal growth. Jason shares his journey from feeling disconnected to becoming a leader in men’s development, offering insights into how cultural shifts have redefined masculinity. From navigating relationships to building better communities, this conversation dives deep into how men can find purpose and thrive.

1. 00:00 – Introduction: Meet Jason Lange and the importance of men’s groups.

2. 05:00 – Redefining Masculinity: How cultural shifts shaped modern manhood.

3. 15:00 – Finding Your Tribe: Why men’s groups matter and how to find one.

4. 25:00 – Breaking the Lone Wolf Myth: The importance of community for men.

5. 35:00 – Actionable Insights: Jason’s advice for men ready to grow.

6. 50:00 – Closing Thoughts: Key takeaways and how to connect with Jason.

• Jason Lange’s Website: evolutionary.men

• Book Mentioned: No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover

• Jason’s Podcast: Evolutionary Men Podcast

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Together, they discuss how Tess uses meditation and dreams as part of her creative process, the concept of creative constraints, and her personal journey balancing the demands of life with her passion for storytelling. Whether you’re a writer, a seeker, or someone curious about unlocking your own potential, this episode is packed with wisdom, inspiration, and practical advice.

1. 00:00 – Introduction: Setting the stage for a conversation with Tess Callahan.

2. 02:00 – Meet Tess: Tess introduces herself and her new book, Dawnland.

3. 09:00 – The Writing Process: Insights into the messy yet magical journey of writing.

4. 17:30 – Dreams and Creativity: How Tess uses dreams to spark inspiration.

5. 24:00 – Meditation for Focus: The role of meditation in her creative and personal life.

6. 32:00 – Creative Constraints: How limits can fuel innovation in writing.

7. 42:00 – Journaling for Self-Discovery: Tess’s advice on writing to pursue your questions.

8. 51:00 – Book Promotion Challenges: Tess reflects on transitioning from writing to promoting.

9. 57:00 – Wrapping Up: James and Tess discuss joyful rebellion and embracing life’s challenges.

• Tess Callahan’s Website: http://www.tesscallahan.com

• Dawnland (Preorder/Order): http://www.tesscallahan.com/dawnland

• Heart Haven Meditations Podcast: Heart Haven Meditations

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If you are anything like me, you’ve made the mistake of blaming time for not getting everything you want to do in your life. Statements like “I don’t have time " or “There aren’t enough hours in the day” are as common to say as they are to hear from others, but if we’re being honest with ourselves, they’re just excuses that help us feel better about how our priorities are playing out in our lives.

If you are curious about becoming more intentional about how you use time, then turn up your volume. My guest today is David Buck, who wrote the book on this subject. It’s called The Time Optimized Life, and I feel certain you’ll get at least one great nugget of wisdom out of our conversation.

And hey, if not, you’ll at least get to hear about the type of person I find to be more proud of their lifestyle than both vegans and crossfitters combined, and man, that’s saying a whole lot.

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Do you consider yourself to be creative? My guest today shares his insights on the types of creativity everyone has access to if they work to develop it for themselves.

Rich Kirkpatrick writes, consults, and speaks about the intersection of creativity, faith and leadership. He’s the author of a book called, MINDBLOWN: Unlock Your Creative Genius by Bridging Science and Magic. and today, we are talking about one of my favorite subjects, creativity.

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If you could have the ability to remember the details of every single day of most of your life, would you want to? Recalling every conversation, adventure, misadventure, the weather and the day’s current events on a whim might seem cool at first, but do you think it would it eventually become a burden?

My guest today is Frank Healy. He’s one of about 100 people in the world who can recall every day of his life in vivid detail since he was six years old.

He’s spent his career helping people become the best version of themselves and written several books on the topic of memories and how we can not only heal from, but also triumph over our past traumas to live our best life.

So many of our results in life are a product of our communication. From simple things like sharing what we want for lunch that day, to the more complex tasks like inspiring others with a vision of the future, words and our use of language tend to do the heavy lifting.

On the flip side, lack of communication earns its own set of results. Just ask anyone who has experienced a failed business, relationship or lost opportunity because of poor communication.

My guest today has dedicated her last twenty years to the field of speech pathology and recently wrote a book about how anyone with a child in their life can help them develop the language skills that will set them up for more confidence and success in their future.

Jeaneen Tang’s book is called Play Dumb and Sabotage and she explains what it means to mindfully underestimate a child’s needs, in order to create opportunities to practice language.

Since I was a kid, I’ve loved a good ghost story, so a few months ago when I saw there was a book coming out with ghost stories specific to a town close to me, I made sure I was one of the first people to get a copy.

My guest today is Liz Pardue. Liz and her co-author Kelly Prestipino just released their book titled: Fuquay-Varina Ghosts Legends and Lore and I wanted to dive into why they make the claim that this little town is the most haunted town in the South.

Oh, and if you’re scratching your head wondering, what a book about ghosts has to do with joyful rebellions, just remember, Every time anyone identifies a passion outside of their day-to-day life and runs with it, that is it’s own joyful rebellion and the only way we ended up with these great stories to captivate us.

Stick around until the end and I’ll tell you how you can win a free copy of their new book.

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Climb aboard the submarine, because we are diving deep today. My guest Gao Motsemme helps people live out their joyful rebellion by addressing the generational traumas that hold them back from living the life they want, and reconnecting them with their sexual energy, which as she explains is the energy of creation. If you are looking to be the captain of your own ship in this life, this is a conversation you don’t want to miss.

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Have you ever experienced self-doubt? I know it’s like asking if you’ve ever eaten pizza. It’s a common human experience that can hold even the best of us back from achieving our true potential.

Today I’m talking with Amy L. Bernstein, a writing coach and author of the upcoming book, Wrangling the Doubt Monster, Fighting Fears and Finding Inspiration. And even though, a lot of our conversation centers on the writing process, you can apply these concepts to so many other areas of life.

I’d love to hear what you got out of this episode. Be sure to connect with me at a joyfulrebellion.com

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Whether we know, or want to admit it, our emotions are a major driver in day-to-day life. It’s easy to walk around, unaware of how our feelings influence our behavior, and if we spend our energy fighting or repressing them, we run the risk of missing out on living the life we always wanted.

My guest today is Kim Korte. Kim saw the need to reframe the explanation of how our brains process emotions through our perceptions and experiences. She’s written a book called, Yucky, Yummy, Savory, Sweet- Understanding the Flavors of Emotions.

It’s a whole new way to think about our emotions, by relating them to something we all know a lot about…food. Stick with us for the next hour, and I bet you’ll come out the other side with more tools for your own joyful rebellion.

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My guest today is Paul Zolman. Around age thirty-five, Paul became aware of his tendency to look for the faults in people rather than the good in them. He wanted to break the cycle of criticism he inherited from his upbringing, so he created a game to demonstrate the principles of love languages.

It's a profound way to learn all five love languages and to give them away to others. The system is so easy that even young children can be trained in this love-giving system, and, spoiler alert: it's a game where everyone wins.

The concept of the five love languages has been around for a while, but this is a fresh take that works with anyone in your life, which is why I’m excited for you to hear our conversation.

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Every one of us has our special brand of self-sabotage holding us back from having everything we REALLY want out of life. We’ve all heard the saying that everything you could ever wish for is on the other side of fear, and my guest today breaks down the fundamental truths of that statement, and most importantly, what we normal folks can do about it.

Liam Naden is a great example of someone who has been through a joyful rebellion of his own. He spent the first half of his life working hard to achieve the success he’d always wanted, only to realize the life that accompanied all of that success made him miserable and stressed him out to the point where he lost everything but the clothes on his back.

While rebuilding his life, he began asking questions about why things happened for him the way they did. This led him to some fascinating insights about how our brains are wired and how we can overcome what’s holding us back from living our best life.

We’ve been misled about food for our entire lives, and it’s killing us. My guest today helps explain why that is, and how a couple of unproven theories from just a few medical professionals in the late 1960s have created an explosion in obesity and related diseases over the past fifty years.

If you’ve listened to this podcast before, then you know A Joyful Rebellion is all about getting more life out of life. It’s hard to do that if your health is compromised, so I’m excited for you to hear this conversation with Dr. John Poothulil. He goes by Dr. John and has written six books on subjects ranging from preventing and reversing type 2 diabetes to preventing and healing from cancer through the foods we eat, and more importantly, the foods we avoid.

The next hour is packed with info, so let’s get our science on!

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Whether you live in or have visited a city recently, you've probably encountered people without a place to call home. Many of us, myself included, experience that awkward tension when we think about how that person might have arrived in that circumstance, and what we would do if we ever found ourselves in their shoes.

Shayne Whitaker became homeless for the first time at age four and wrote a book about his experiences growing up. His book is called, The Homeless Man’s Journal, and it takes us through his journey from being abandoned by his mother, at an early age, then living in a dysfunctional family situation for several years before opting to live in an orphanage and ultimately getting in control of his future.

It’s a story of resilience that echoes the sentiments of what A Joyful Rebellion is all about, and if you stick around till the end, I feel confident you’ll gain a healthy dose of perspective from our conversation.

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Have you ever asked someone how they are doing and they tell you they are “Living the dream”? It’s typically delivered with sarcastic undertones, but it got me thinking about how different my life would be if I took the time to design it with intention, rather than simply going through the motions.

My conversation today is with Paul Trammell. Paul has lived a big life and is truly living his dream with intention. He’s gone through many journeys so far, from a career as a musician to a commitment to sobriety, followed by selling all of his possessions on land to live on a sailboat where he currently travels the world, surfs big waves, and writes novels.

Sound unreal? Well, that’s just the way he likes it. This episode got me all fired up, and I hope that happens for you too, so let’s jump in!

My guest today has a fascinating story to share with us. Edward Di Gangi grew up knowing that he was adopted, though it was never discussed in his family. It wasn’t until later in life that he got curious about his birth parents and began a journey that would take him to a few different states, introduce him to a lot of people he would have never met otherwise, and ultimately inspire him to write a memoir about what he found.

Edward is the author of The Gift Best Given- It’s a story of adoption, search, discovery and reunion. Silence your notifications for the next forty-five minutes as Edward and I discuss his story. I feel confident you’ll be glad you spent this time with us.

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My guest today is Marian Massie, a hypnotherapist and success coach who helps her clients create more empowerment and confidence in their lives.

She’s also the author of three books. Her latest is Miracles: Karma and Reincarnation Redefined ~ A Handbook for Purposeful Living.

Marian and I discuss her thoughts about why we are not people who have a soul, rather, we are souls who have a body. She talks about who she wrote the book for, and why it’s important to pay attention to our dreams.

David Page is a food journalist, and creator of the Food Network show, Diners Drive-ins and Dives. (definitely one of my favorites) He is also the author of the book called, Food Americana: The Remarkable People and Incredible Stories Behind America’s Favorite Dishes.

We cover a lot of ground in this episode, and I didn’t hold back with the hard-hitting questions like, does pineapple have any business on pizza, and where should I go the next time I’m in Philly for the best cheesesteak?

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-page-65b6728/

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https://www.facebook.com/david.page.1840

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In the years since her life-changing struggle, Tanya Memme has interviewed over a hundred people who have hit rock bottom, only to emerge stronger. She’s writing a book about what those people and their stories have in common and what we can learn about resilience and the human spirit.

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Summary

The script is an interview with Tanya Memme, a TV host and former Miss Canada, who discusses her journey from hitting rock bottom to rebuilding her life. She shares her experiences of career highs and lows, her struggles with depression, and the challenges in her personal life, including a difficult marriage and financial difficulties. Tanya reveals how she found a sense of purpose through her podcast, 'Life Masters,' where she interviews individuals who have overcome their own rock bottom experiences. She discusses her development of a course to help people gain confidence on camera and her ongoing work on a book about resilience and the commonalities among people who have bounced back from adversity. The conversation emphasizes the significance of staying present, connecting with nature, and surrounding oneself with positive influences during tough times.

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Show Notes:

In this episode, the host interviews Tanya Memme, a TV personality who faced a significant rock bottom after experiencing career highs and personal lows. Tanya shares her emotional journey from being a well-known TV host to struggling with depression and financial instability. She discusses how she found strength through interviewing others who had also hit rock bottom for her podcast 'Life Masters,' leading to writing a book about resilience and the human spirit. Tanya talks about the lessons she learned, the importance of spirituality, and practical steps she took to rebuild her life. She also delves into her new projects, including a public speaking course and helping others build confidence on camera. Tanya’s story is a powerful testament to the human ability to overcome adversity and find purpose.

00:00 Introduction to Rock Bottom

01:01 Meet Tanya Memme

02:41 Tanya's Early Career and Miss Canada

03:50 Life in Television

04:42 Personal Struggles and Career Challenges

05:31 Hitting Rock Bottom

11:35 The Turning Point: Ayahuasca Ceremony

14:12 Starting the Life Masters Podcast

16:31 Lessons from Rock Bottom

23:29 Teaching and Mentoring

27:34 Returning to a Changed Life

27:53 Balancing Career and Family

29:40 A New Direction: Coaching and Public Speaking

31:12 The Power of Networking

32:57 Finding and Sharing Rock Bottom Stories

34:57 Creating a Roadmap to Success

36:26 Building Confidence on Camera

38:56 The Journey of Writing a Book

40:58 Overcoming Personal Struggles

48:54 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

The second meaning is more literal. Sharing the experiences and wisdom you’ve accumulated over the years could be just the inspiration someone else needs to go out and do great things in the world.

In my conversation with Dianne Pearce, and David Yurkovich, we talk about how someone who has a story inside them, can begin thinking about getting that story into a form that can benefit others.

Dianne and David have developed an understanding of what it takes to be a published author through their experiences with their own books and running their publishing company Current Words.

We demystify the publishing process and talk about actionable things you can do to begin your author journey if that interests you. This is one of our longer episodes, so, refill your drink and enjoy this conversation.

My guest today is Meghan Dotter, founder and CEO of Portico, and author of the book titled The Reluctant Presenter. Portico is a team with expertise in storytelling, speaker training, presentation design, leadership development, and messaging.

Meghan and I talk about how excellent presentation skills are crucial whether you are simply updating your team, or addressing a room full of investors. We talk about ways she’s helped clients create breakthroughs in their presentation skills and why TED talks aren’t always exactly what they appear to be.

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Mastering Public Speaking: Insights from Expert Megan Dotter

In this engaging discussion, Meghan Dotter, founder and CEO of Portico and author of 'The Reluctant Presenter,' shares essential tips and strategies for effective public speaking. The conversation delves into the misconceptions about TED Talks, the fear of public speaking, and practical advice for overcoming anxiety.

Meghan highlights real-life examples of transforming hesitant speakers into confident presenters, emphasizing the importance of connecting with the audience and framing presentations as conversations. The episode is rich with actionable insights for anyone looking to improve their presentation skills, whether they're addressing a small team or a large audience.

00:00 The Illusion of TED Talks

01:03 Introducing Megan Daughter: Expert in Presentation Skills

01:47 The Reality Behind TED Talks

02:50 Understanding the Fear of Public Speaking

05:28 Overcoming Presentation Anxiety

07:44 From Fear to Confidence: Success Stories

11:32 The Journey to Effective Public Speaking

23:37 The Impact of Virtual Presentations

24:52 Navigating Virtual Interactions

26:02 Challenges for Young Professionals in Hybrid Workspaces

26:58 The Importance of Small Talk and Social Networking

28:14 Inspiration Behind Writing a Book

31:49 The Reality of TED Talks

35:50 Harnessing Nervous Energy for Effective Speaking

41:15 Practical Tips for Improving Public Speaking

44:11 Conclusion and Contact Information

My guest today is Bullseye, the clown. Like so many things we all encounter in life, he thought he would dip his toes into a novel experience just once, only to find his impact on others was creating several positive effects in his life.

We talk about why clowns are not just there for the kids, we also talk about bullying, and ways to prevent your kid from being bullied or becoming a bully, and how he discovered that real happiness comes from doing good things for others, so turn your volume up to eight, and let’s go!

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• Doing something nice for someone else can bring fulfillment and joy.
• Clowning can have a powerful impact on people and bring smiles to their faces.
• Bullying can have long-lasting effects on individuals, and it's important to address the issue.
• Changing patterns and being aware of one's surroundings can help prevent bullying.
• Empowering children to stand up against bullying is crucial. Bullies may have a bad home life and are often seeking an outlet for their own pain.
• Hurt people hurt other people, highlighting the cycle of bullying.
• Clowning and acts of kindness can bring happiness and joy to both the giver and the recipient.
• Parents should have open conversations with their children about bullying and cyberbullying.
• Small acts of kindness, such as volunteering at a homeless shelter or nursing home, can make a difference in someone's life.
• Being selective about social media platforms and interactions can help prevent cyberbullying.
• Clowns are not just for kids; they can bring laughter and joy to adults as well.

• "If things are not going the way you want them to do, the best thing we can always do is just do something nice for someone else."
• "Real happiness comes from doing good things for others."
• "There's something to the power that we have as clowns."
• "Hurt people hurt other people."
• "The joyful rebellion is all about realizing that if you're not happy with where you are right now, then you have to decide, okay, what do I do next?"
• "Sometimes the people whose lives you change, you may never know."

Truth be told, I’m still on the fence about my own feelings on the subject, but I’m doing my best to lean toward fired up.

My guest today is Shanti Hershenson. She began writing in 2020 in her joyful rebellion against the boredom she was experiencing during lock down. Since then she has published over sixteen books. She continues to write at least 1000 words every day, and I don’t think I mentioned it yet, but at the time of this interview, she is sixteen years old. Yeah, you heard that right.

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My guest today has spent most of his life in some sort of personal development. However, in the last 5 years he’s hit it extra hard , investing over a quarter of a million of his own dollars in himself in order to learn, grow and succeed.

Tony Schmaltz has a passion for helping people upgrade their lives in any area possible. He specializes in mindset, wealth creation, relationships and happiness and has walked his talk when it comes to pursiung a better life for himself and his family.

He also has a book out called wake the BLEEP UP! We’ll talk about his journey from being miserable in the corporate world, to his massive investment in himself and how that has played out so far.

So take a deep breath, now exhale,alright, let’s go!

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Connect with Tony:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tony.beschmaltzy

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tony.schmaltz/

Website:  https://www.tonyschmaltz.com/

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• Start your day with a positive morning routine to fill your cup with positive energy.
• Investing in personal development is an investment in yourself and everyone you affect.
• Reconciling past experiences with corporations can be a challenge, but it's important to find ways to serve and help others.
• Find joy in tasks, even the smallest ones, by gamifying them or involving others.
• Personal transformation requires changing limiting beliefs and being open to new possibilities. Identify and eliminate negative influences in your life to reduce fear and doubt.
• Develop a positive morning routine to start your day with positive energy.
• Shift your perception and realize that there is no such thing as a bad day, only bad moments.
• Become aware of your self-limiting beliefs and the stories you tell yourself.
• Invest in personal growth and seek the help of a coach to overcome limitations and achieve success.

• "Having a positive morning routine, starting with declarations, some sort of prayer or meditation, some exercise, maybe a walk around the block or jumping jacks, something to fill your cup with positive energy."
• "When we first moved to Florida, we lived in Seattle area. We moved to Florida in 2018 for a job. And it was when I got to that company that I realized I was definitely not being myself."
• "The total number is right around $250,000 in the last five years. It's actually a little north of that."
• "It's almost always about people pleasing."
• "Almost all of our fears, our limiting beliefs, our doubts come from what we think other people are going to think about it."
• "The first step for almost anybody is to be able to turn that into a positive."

Noah uses a science and data-driven approach to help his clients find success both in their dating journey, then well into when things start to get real with their relationship.

He’ll share the latest science on dating. From fMRI research to improve confidence and conversation, to data insights into profiles, messages, and crowd-sourced feedback on photos.

Oh, and this is important to mention if YOU are in a super califragalistic, just as happy as you can possibly be, kind of relationship. Well hey! Congratulations, but all the more reason to listen in today, because I bet you have a friend or loved one who is looking for that too, and I bet you’ll hear a few nuggets of wisdom you could pass along.

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http://DateCoach.com

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https://instagram.com/DateCoachDotCom

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• The importance of a science-driven approach to modern dating and relationships
• Coaching clients through the challenges of dating and relationship dynamics
• The significance of values in finding a compatible partner Identifying values and expectations is crucial in finding a compatible partner.
• Body confidence is essential and can be cultivated regardless of body size or shape.
• Self-awareness and understanding one's confidence intervals are important in dating and relationships.

• "A joyful rebellion."
• "In order to be happy, sometimes you have to break the rules that you've been following for so many years."
• "You can break it down. You, you've got studies, you got these things."
• "How freaking lucky are you right now? Right? Absolutely go you guys."
• "I was looking for someone at a five. I thought five was a 10."
• "I learned so much about the potential upsides of cryptocurrency when I was on dating."

Bob is a mix of things you might not expect to go together. He currently works as a professor of business law at Elon University. He is also the Mindfulness Coordinator for the University.

As a Taoist/Buddhist/Christian practitioner, Bob actively works to free people from the constraints of religious dogma and guide them toward the path of virtue and self-discovery.

We talk about his most recent book titled- I Am the Way, a Taoist/ Christian devotional that reflects Bob’s commitment to bridging spiritual traditions and fostering unity and compassion among all beings.

We also talk a lot about mindfulness and meditation and why creating a consistent practice has become so important to defend our minds from the information overload many of us experience daily.

I can’t wait for you to hear this conversation, so let’s jump in!

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• Integrating different spiritual practices and ideologies can lead to a more holistic and fulfilling life.
• Mindfulness and meditation are essential practices for defending our minds from information overload.
• Listening and validation can have a profound impact on individuals and help them change their circumstances.
• The practice of meditation helps us connect with our observer, the fountain of all wisdom and our true selves. In a world filled with distractions and information overload, it is important to clean the 'blackboard' of the mind and reconnect with one's true self.
• Having a coach or mentor in the meditation practice can provide valuable guidance and support.
• Teaching meditation from a classical perspective can help individuals understand the practice and experience anxiety reduction.
• Bob's book, 'I Am the Way,' explores the intersection of Daoism, Buddhism, and Christianity, offering a new perspective on spirituality and the teachings of Jesus.

• "You're not aware of the fact that 20 feet down where you really live, everything is calm."
• "It's okay to integrate different practices, ideologies, and philosophies."
• "Meditation is about waking up from the default mind mush and paying attention."
• "You got to start to clean the blackboard up."
• "The moment you take the time to watch your mind is a light bulb moment for anyone."
• "Challenge the first thought."

Ari inspires people using personal stories filled with triumph, tragedy, and transformation, and draws on his experiences in nature's great healing domain to give others hope and light. He is the author of the popular parable, The Little Book Of Greatness.

We talk about some of the modern distractions that contribute to disconnection and how to be more aware of them. Then we discuss Ari’s five keys of greatness. I’m excited for you to hear this episode, so let’s get it going!

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• Nature can help us reconnect with ourselves and others, providing a sense of awe and humility.
• Technology can hinder our sense of connection if we become too reliant on it.
• Finding a balance between technology and nature is important for overall well-being.
• The Little Book of Greatness explores the journey of a man seeking answers and the five keys to greatness. The five keys to greatness are giving, reason, engagement, positive thinking, and tenacity.
• Checking in with oneself and being present in the moment is crucial for personal growth and well-being.
• Nature can help create awareness and provide opportunities for self-reflection.
• Applying the five keys in daily life can lead to a more fulfilling and purposeful existence.
• Connecting with the guest's work can be done through the website ariguns.com.

• "The belonging that I'm talking about is just feeling like you have a sense of togetherness and a sense of being there with the people that we're with."
• "We're losing that sense of community and that sense of this is where I belong in the world."
• "Being in nature allows me to just shut part of my brain off and reconnect with myself in a way that I am more present."
• "The first key is to be more giving to provide for the people around us with money, time, compassion, anything like that."
• "The third key is engaged, to be more present in the moment and to put the phone down and be with the people you're with."
• "The fourth key is amazing, which is just a keyword to remember the concept of thinking positively."

We make so many choices over our lifetime, and some we see as major, like careers and relationships, while there are others we fool ourselves into believing are less significant. There’s no shortage of those, but today, we’re talking about the food we choose to eat.

My guest today is Coach Becker, a fat loss coach and creator of the Keto Code program. I first met Becker back in the early 2000s at a photo conference in Las Vegas. Since that time, I’ve watched him go through his own joyful rebellion by losing 100 pounds and creating a completely new life for himself, and if you listen to the full episode, I think you’ll agree that is no exaggeration.

I knew this would be an interview that could help those who might listen to it. What I didn’t realize is how much the conversation helped improve my own mindset around food and health in general.

Oh, and if you’re about to switch over to your favorite true crime podcast because you’re tired of hearing about the keto diet, you’re in luck. While it is mentioned a few times, it’s not the core message here.

This episode has been a long time coming, so let’s jump right in!

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• Taking accountability for our decisions is crucial in creating the life we want.
• The food choices we make have a significant impact on our health and well-being.
• Avoiding added sugar, refined grains, and seed oils can lead to improved health and weight loss.
• Eating real, unprocessed food and customizing dietary approaches based on individual preferences and goals is key.
• Intermittent fasting can be beneficial for health and weight management. Eating real food, getting enough sleep, and staying active are the pillars of good health.
• Unlearning the misinformation about nutrition is crucial for making sustainable and healthy choices.
• The keto industry often promotes processed and unhealthy products labeled as 'keto.' It's important to focus on whole, unprocessed foods.
• Developing healthy habits and a positive mindset is key to long-term success in weight loss and overall wellness.

Maggie is the most famous author you’ve never heard of and we discuss writing, the best way to write your own story, and how she helps her clients get their stories out into the world through publishing books.

Before we begin, though, I’d like to thank the author, John Berendt, for the story he published thirty years ago that caused this whole thing to come together the way it did.

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Website

https://maggiemills.com/

Website #2

https://takemaggieswordforit.com/

LinkedIn URL

https://www.linkedin.com/in/maggiemillswriter

YouTube URL

https://www.youtube.com/@take-maggies-word-for-it

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Summary

In this conversation, host James Walters interviews ghostwriter Maggie Mills about the power of storytelling and the role of a ghostwriter. They discuss how everyone has a unique story to tell and how different voices can resonate with different audiences. They also explore the importance of bringing emotion and sensory details into storytelling to engage readers. The conversation takes place in a cemetery, adding a unique and atmospheric backdrop to their discussion. In this conversation, the host and guest discuss the process of ghostwriting and the challenges and joys that come with it. They explore the importance of capturing the author's voice and maintaining authenticity in the writing. The guest shares insights into how she keeps up the momentum and stamina required for ghostwriting, emphasizing her love for what she does and her belief in her authors. They also touch on the value of storytelling, the role of tone and voice in writing, and the importance of preserving personal stories as a legacy.

Keywords

storytelling, ghostwriting, unique perspective, emotion, sensory details, cemetery, ghostwriting, author's voice, authenticity, momentum, stamina, storytelling, tone, voice, legacy

Takeaways

• Everyone has a unique story to tell, and different voices can resonate with different audiences.

• Bringing emotion and sensory details into storytelling can make the story more engaging and relatable.

• Cemeteries can be beautiful and peaceful places that inspire reflection and storytelling.

• Ghostwriters play a crucial role in helping people share their stories and experiences.

• Stories have the power to inspire, educate, and connect people. Ghostwriting involves capturing the author's voice and maintaining authenticity in the writing.

• The love for what you do and belief in your authors can help maintain momentum and stamina in ghostwriting.

• Storytelling is a powerful tool that can be used to convey different perspectives and insights.

• Tone and voice play a crucial role in writing, and it's important to preserve the author's unique style and regional flavor.

• Keeping notes and preserving personal stories can serve as a valuable legacy, even if they are never published.

Chapters

00:00Introduction: The Joyful Rebellion

01:14Meeting Maggie Mills: The Most Famous Author You've Never Heard Of

03:25Unconventional Setting: The Cemetery as a Backdrop

04:22The Inspiration Behind the Podcast Episode

08:07The Power of Stories: Learning and Growing

09:29Everyone Has a Story: The Importance of Perspective

11:16The Confidentiality of Ghostwriting

13:06Discovering Hidden Stories: Helping Others Recognize Their Experiences

15:23The Value of Unique Perspectives: Why Your Story Matters

19:11The Beauty of Cemeteries: Inspiring Reflection and Storytelling

20:36The Impact of Stories: Inspiring, Educating, and Connecting

20:59The Art of Ghostwriting

24:15Maintaining Momentum and Stamina

26:12The Power of Storytelling

27:32Preserving Authenticity: Tone and Voice

34:29Leaving a Legacy: Personal Stories

Benjy Sherer is an emotional wellness coach and author of 'Feelings First Shadow Work' and '10 Mind Hacks for Quicker Emotional Healing'. He teaches his clients how to master their emotions as quickly, easily, and painlessly as possible.

His unique methods help people bypass their logical brains and connect directly to their emotions to release past trauma, limiting beliefs, and self-harming patterns without needing to focus on all of the past traumas that caused these issues in the first place.

He’s helped client after client overcome stress, anxiety, fear, guilt, shame, PTSD, and depression, and find the real and lasting self-love and joy they've struggled so many years to attain.

Today I talk with Benjy about his framework of emotional fitness and how he equips his clients with the tools to move beyond their current limitations.

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• Emotional strength is not about suppressing emotions but about confronting and processing them.
• Challenges and setbacks can lead to self-discovery and finding one's true purpose.
• Traditional therapy may not always be effective in addressing emotional issues, and alternative approaches like emotional fitness training can be beneficial.
• The Twin Flame narrative can be toxic and cult-like, but it can also serve as a catalyst for personal growth and healing.
• Emotional fitness involves developing the skills and resilience to navigate and manage emotions effectively. Traditional talk therapy often focuses on past traumas without providing practical tools for healing.
• Emotional fitness involves building emotional muscles and confronting emotions rather than avoiding them.
• Anxiety is a significant issue in today's society, and it can be addressed by breaking the cycle of negative thoughts, physical sensations, and emotions.
• One effective mind hack is programming subroutines, which involves associating certain actions with specific thoughts or affirmations.

• "Emotional strength is the ability to confront heavier and heavier emotions."
• "Challenges and setbacks can lead to self-discovery and finding one's true purpose."
• "The Twin Flame narrative can be toxic and cult-like, but it can also serve as a catalyst for personal growth and healing."
• "Traditional talk therapy...paving the same pathways in your brain."
• "Emotional strength is the ability to confront heavier and heavier emotions."
• "Anxiety is a significant issue and it is absolutely growing."

My guest today is Shari Rash, Financial Advisor and founder of Greenway Wealth Advisory. Shari has over 17 years of experience working in the financial services industry, and is the author of Insider's Secrets about Women and Money.

We talk about how the lessons we either did or didn’t learn about money from previous generations in our family could be holding us back from a healthy relationship with it.

Shari shares insights she has learned about personal finance through the years, differences between how men and women view finances and she explains how to discover your spending personality.

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• Family programming and upbringing play a significant role in shaping one's attitudes and behaviors towards money.
• Women often feel left out of financial conversations and are underserved by the male-dominated financial services industry.
• Understanding one's spending personality is crucial for making conscious financial decisions.
• Generational attitudes towards money vary, from the savings-focused mindset of boomers to the financial uncertainty experienced by Gen Xers.
• Empowerment and control over money can be achieved through financial education and awareness. There has been a mindset shift in retirement planning, with individuals now being solely responsible for their own retirement savings.
• Millennials face unique financial challenges, such as high student loan debt and housing costs, which impact their ability to save for the future.
• Teaching kids about money through an allowance and involving them in financial decisions can help them develop wise money habits.
• Having open and honest communication about money is crucial in couples' finances, and seeking the guidance of a financial advisor can help navigate financial decisions.
• Understanding one's money personality and removing emotions from financial decisions can lead to a more empowered and disciplined approach to managing money.

Ricky Sluder is a survivor of childhood trauma and has battled Complex PTSD himself, which helped him develop a faith-based alternative to the traditional mental health counseling model. His approach is to coach people who feel sidelined by life in a way that uses their past difficulties as fuel to get them back into the game.

In 2022, Ricky Sluder published his book, Accepting Truth, Finding Hpe! We’re going to dive super deep into his story, so buckle up extra securely for this one. It might just be the most real interview I’ve done so far.

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I’ve noticed recently though, that outside of dramatic weight loss stories, I don’t see many people shouting about how they overcame their complacency in different areas of their lives. I can tell you from experience, that complacency kills as many, if not more dreams than adversity ever did.

My guest today is Terry Sidford, a popular TEDx speaker, certified life coach, and author of her new book, Truth. Courage. Love., Terry helps people reach their greatest potential, so they can achieve their goals and have a bigger impact on the ones they care about.

Today we talk about the courage it takes to face your truth and live up to your fullest potential, and the top five lies we tell ourselves that are holding us back.

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Today’s guest builds on that theme and this episode is for all of you married folks. Theresa DeWit is a relationship coach at joyfullymarried.com and author of the book Less Conflict, More Joy, and, side note- if you’re not looking for more joy in your life please, message me directly, so I can flood your inbox with videos of baby chipmunks. That works for me anyway, your mileage may vary.

Theresa and I discuss her practical tips for making a great relationship even better, turning conflict into connection and we also talk about how to recover if you realize your relationship has hit a plateau or even a slump.

This episode is packed with info you can take action on today to see big changes in your love life with your significant other, so let’s jump right in…

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Connect with Theresa:

She’s written a new book called Power UP: The Executive Roadmap to Transforming Life and Business.

We talk about self-sabotage, and balancing work with the rest of our life.  Toward the end, we identify the one thing that can allow us to create the best possible life for ourselves and those we care about, so get yourself a fresh cup of coffee as I jump into this conversation with both feet.

Jason Del Gandio has a PhD in Communication Studies and has studied "vibes" for 30 years. He is a published author, an award-winning teacher, and an engaged intellectual.

Throughout our conversation, Jason and I peel back the layers of the concept of the vibe, its history, how it shows up in other cultures, and what you need to know if you want your vibe to be the best it can be.

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My guest today is Kelly Maclean, Founder of the Kelly MacLean Achievement Center. Over the last 11 years, Kelly and her team have helped over 5000 students select the right major and college, get selected for scholarships, and set them up for a bright and successful future.

You know this podcast is all about creating your best life, so even if you don’t have kids or college is just a hazy memory, stick around, because as you might expect, Kelly and I go a little deeper into how decisions made in high school can impact life’s trajectory.

Connect with Kelly:

• College admissions is a business, and colleges are looking for diversity within their programs.
• Students should gain confidence in pursuing their dreams and not settle for what is considered safe.
• It is important to consider the culture and community of a college when making a decision.
• The financial aspect of college should also be taken into account.
• Students can stand out and gain valuable experiences by thinking outside the box and taking initiative. Many students enter college without a clear understanding of what their future career will entail, leading to potential dissatisfaction and career changes.
• The education system has not kept up with the changing job market, leaving students unaware of the wide range of career options available to them.
• Shadowing professionals in different fields can help students gain a better understanding of what a job actually entails and whether it aligns with their interests and skills.
• It is important for students to have a love of learning and curiosity, as jobs of the future may not even exist yet.
• College is not the right path for everyone, and it is important for parents and students to consider alternative options that align with their interests and goals.

• "Your child can check every box, have the stats, and still not get in."
• "This is a joyful rebellion."
• "When you go through your twenties, it's the get era."
• "Kids have no idea what jobs are out there."
• "Over 80% of them have come back and said, I don't want to do it."
• "How about four years? Whoa."

Rick explains that every one of us is in some sort of closet, and why coming out is our life’s journey toward living authentically. Oh, and spoiler alert, much of this conversation has nothing to do with sexuality and everything to do with unapologetically owning who you really are.

After all, isn't that the ultimate joyful Rebellion?

Connect with Rick:

rickclemons.com 

lifeuncloseted.com 

fortyplusgaymengaytalk.com

instagram - @‌therickclemons

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• Coming out is a journey towards living authentically, and it is not limited to sexuality.
• The reactions of loved ones can vary, and it's important to set boundaries and prioritize self-acceptance.
• Everyone has their own 'closet story' and something they're hiding from others.
• Embracing one's true self requires courage, resilience, and the willingness to face societal pressure and expectations. Give yourself permission to be authentic and live your truth.
• Align your actions with your values and beliefs.
• Challenge the false stories you tell yourself and rewrite your narrative.
• Build confidence by recognizing past successes and applying that energy to new challenges.
• Big conversations and life transitions require courage and self-reflection.
• Rick Clemens' podcasts, 'Life Uncloseted' and '40 Plus: Real Men, Real Talk', provide inspiration and support for personal growth and empowerment.

• "Every one of us has a closet story."
• "What was that moment that you looked at your life and you said something's got to change?"
• "I knew my whole world was about to implode."
• "Welcome to what it's like to be somebody who's LGBTQ and told, 'nope, you're supposed to show up in the world this way, not the way you want.'"
• "I feel like you're right in my head. I feel like you're reading every thought I'm having, but you're also giving me the courage to realize it's time for me to be me."
• "Sometimes you touch a nerve authenticity is just hitting the nerve."

Stick around, and I’ll tell you a story about how avoiding curiosity keeps you ignorant and looking like a total dweeb

The quote goes like this, “You’re either making progress, or you’re making excuses.” A lot of us have heard that, it’s not a new concept, and It’s a brutal truth that doesn’t leave much room for our BS.

So, Fast forward to a text I received recently from my own health and fitness coach checking in on my progress, and I thought to myself, “What progress, all I’ve got are excuses.” And that’s how this episode came into existence

Today’s guest is David McRae, a health and wellness coach who has heard his fair share of excuses over the years. We talk about why we sometimes make excuses instead of progress, and most importantly, what we can do about it.

Connect with David:

https://www.instagram.com/mcraesc/

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• Excuses often arise when people lack a strong reason for pursuing their goals.
• Having a plan and setting minimum effective goals can help overcome excuses and build long-term habits.
• Accountability check-ins and tracking progress are important for maintaining motivation and momentum.
• Maintaining progress requires incorporating healthy habits into one's lifestyle and being intentional about choices.
• Excuses can be overcome by prioritizing time, having a plan, and making mindset shifts.

• "People who are committed, they don't make excuses if they say they're going to do something. They keep that promise to themselves."
• "When it comes to excuses, it's usually the people who have superficial goals. They want to look better when they take their shirt off at the pool."
• "The plan needs to be simple enough that you can stick with it no matter what happens. And that's how you maintain it."

Michaelene is a deathcare professional and professor who has spent the past decade educating individuals, families, and fellow professionals about the important processes involved with end-of-life planning and honoring the lives of those we care about.

Be sure to stay to the end, because we got into some info that surprised me, and I promise you will want to know about it.

https://www.quietusbee.com/

Yeah, you heard that right. In 1999, while in a coma for over three weeks, she had a near-death experience that took her through hell, and then heaven, only to discover that at the time, neither place wanted her, which is why she’s back among us living folks and able to tell what she saw.

Her book is called Misfit in Hell to Heaven Expat and after I read it, I had a LOT of follow-up questions, so let’s jump right in!

Check out this video for an in-depth description of Kathy's time in Hell.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YtaS1Zyrxnw

We talk about why people might ignore or downplay their gifts, how your superpower might sometimes feel like a burden, and how it doesn’t have to, most importantly, you’ll learn how to discover your superpower.

Connect at:   

https://www.superpowerinc.org/

Peter Young is the author of the memoir, Stop the Tall Man, Save the Tiger. We discuss what it was like to be in a tiny religious cult, how he finally realized he was in fact in a cult, and how he got out.

Stick around to the very end, because Peter also gives us some major red flags that might signal you or someone you care about is involved with a cult because as he explains, it’s easier to fall into than anyone could ever believe.

https://www.authorpeteryoung.com

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• Cults can operate through manipulative mind control and anyone can fall into a cult, as they often operate in ways that are not immediately recognizable.
• Cult leaders often have a grandiose sense of self and use paranoia, isolation, and secrecy to maintain control over their followers.
• Recognizing the signs of a cult, such as undue mind control and manipulation, is crucial in order to protect oneself and others.
• Seeking support from trusted individuals and maintaining open communication can help in escaping from a cult and recovering from its effects.
• Financial elements, such as tithing, can be used by cult leaders to exert control over their followers. Cults come in all shapes and sizes and can be difficult to recognize.
• Isolation and secrecy are powerful tools used by cults to control their members.
• Faith, family, and friends can play a crucial role in helping individuals escape from cults.
• It is important to be vigilant and watch out for red flags in identifying cults.
• Peter Young's book, 'Stop the Tall Man, Save the Tiger,' provides a firsthand account of his experience in a cult.

• "Nobody knowingly joins a cult."
• "I unwittingly married into a tiny but destructive religious cult."
• "The signs were there early on."
• "They come in all shapes and sizes."
• "One of the goals of the cult leader is to blur the lines of the nuclear family."
• "They make you an emotional and mental wreck and then they prescribe the cure."

Amanda Rose is the founder of Gratitude Incarnate. Around four years ago, she was living a comfortable life that on the outside appeared to check all the boxes of success, while on the inside, she struggled with a feeling that her life lacked purpose, and that led to a stretch of depression. While searching for a way out of her depression and into a more fulfilling way of life, she was introduced to the practice of gratitude.

Now, if you’re thinking, “gratitude, heard that one before, tried it, it didn’t work for me.” Well, that’s one thing you and I have in common. But after talking with Amanda about her Joyful rebellion against depression,and how her gratitude practice played a major role, I have a few new tools to add to my belt, and I bet you will too, so let’s jump right in.

Links to explore:

https://gratitude-incarnate.my.canva.site/the-gratitude-meditation

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• Practicing gratitude can lead to a deeper sense of fulfillment and purpose in life.
• Setting intentions and celebrating small wins can help cultivate a gratitude mindset throughout the day.
• Gratitude can transform relationships by allowing space for others to have their own experiences and by recognizing the blessings and lessons in challenging situations.
• Helping others and being open to receiving can amplify the positive effects of gratitude.
• Gratitude is a practice that evolves over time and can become a natural part of daily life.

• "I've learned there is more to me than the label society has put on me."
• "Gratitude changed my life and it's literally my answer for everything now."
• "Gratitude cannot co-exist with negative thoughts in your brain."

Susan has gone through a few Joyful Rebellions of her own throughout her life, and she brings that experience and energy into her work helping her clients find their own success.

Toward the end of the interview, we’ll be talking about the benefits of hypnotherapy, and if you think it’s all woo-woo and parlor tricks, stick around to find out how big companies are using the principles of hypnosis on all of us every day. Yes, even you.

So get comfy, because this is our longest, most info-packed episode so far.

But wait, you’re probably wondering what’s it even mean, and why is it so important in my life? Sick around and I’ll tell you all about it.

Here are some links to the items I mentioned in the episode.

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I’m your host James Walters and I know there are a ton of successful and driven people in the world who despite their achievements feel empty and kind of miserable. They focused their energy on doing what they thought, or what others told them they should do, and forgot to create a life of excitement and joy for themselves.

How do I know this? Well, I was that guy, until I realized that each and every day, we have the ability to write another page of our life story, and we can be as creative as we allow ourselves. That’s why I want you to be the author of your own story. Each week, I attempt to inspire bold answers to the question, “What can I do now to create a life I love?”

Some weeks I’ll talk with a guest who has led a joyful rebellion in their own life. We’ll explore their story and hear what led up to the moment they knew something had to change.

Other weeks, I’ll interview professionals who help guide their clients through personal growth and big life transformations. The insight and wisdom we get from these chats can be just the push some of us need to get headed in the direction we want.

There will be some weeks when I’ll go solo, and share a story from my own archive of hard lessons that illustrates why being intentional about creating our life is so crucial, and at the same time difficult, empowering, confusing, maddening, but ultimately, totally worth it.

If you have ever wondered how to squeeze more joy out of life, you’re in the right place. Join me next week for a fresh episode, and let’s start A Joyful Rebellion.

My guest today is Addie Sellers of Circle of Love Coaching. She’s a matchmaker and relationship coach, who has helped hundreds of couples find love over the past decade.

We talk the good, the bad and the ugly of post-COVID dating, why most dating apps suck, and she explains why you should never go on a coffee date.

We also discuss what's up with all of the dating site profile pics that show people holding up fish. It's a real and bizarre thing for both men and women and here's my proof.

Transcript

Addie Sellers

Addie: [00:00:00] The very first thing that we start out with when they have just come out of this relationship that was long term, are values. How do they live? Because, opposites do attract chemistry-wise, but value-wise, they do not.

If you have somebody with a completely different set of rules that they live their life by, it's gonna be a disaster.

This is a joyful rebellion. The podcast that explores that moment, you realize the life and success. You worked so hard to create. Didn't come with all the fulfillment. You thought it would. I'm your host James Walters. And I want you to be the author of your own story. Each week I connect with people who inspire bold answers to the question. What do I do now to create a life I love.

If you were ready to start answering that question for yourself, you're in the right place. So let's start a joyful rebellion.

The people we surround ourselves with have a major impact on the quality of our life. And I know I'm preaching to the choir. When I tell you that choosing [00:01:00] a romantic partner can be one of the most crucial decisions we make. My guest today is Addy sellers of circle of love coaching. She's a matchmaker and relationship coach who has helped hundreds of couples find love over the past decade.

We talk the good, the bad and the ugly of post COVID dating. Y most dating apps suck and she explains why you should never go on a coffee date.

James: Addie, tell me because obviously you, graduated high school, you went straight into matchmaking school got your relationship

Addie: It's a it's eight years. Eight years of schooling.

James: Whoa.

Addie: a lot of time and money. It's insane. But,

James: And you came out with a master's degree in matchmaking? No. So. it's probably not a straight line

Addie: No, not at all.

James: do what you do. And you've been doing it for over 10 years now.

Addie: Yes. Love it. I mean, I live and breathe it, but I was 19 when I went to a place called Premier [00:02:00] Education Schools. It's for families of troubled teens and they basically train you in communication.

And I did take some psychology in college, and it's a lot of that, they're very congruent. But all of these families that were split apart for different reasons some of them violence, some of them drug and alcohol abuse, some of them, marriages breaking apart It all boiled down to communication. And I loved it so much, it transformed my family and I thought I want to do this. So I went to the school and became certified to be a facilitator for that school, and ended up having a baby very young. Okay. So I could not travel all the time with a newborn.

Their schools were in Jamaica and California everywhere. So, I just went into what I knew. I knew the restaurant business. I'd grown up in it, I started managing restaurants. But in my free time, I had friends or family members that would complain about dating and how tough it was out there. So I'd be like, I I know a really great guy. and I'd set them up and they would stay [00:03:00] together or get married. And I was hooked at that point. And then I realized, oh, this is not, there's no good guys out there. There's no good girls. It's, they're not thinking about their values.

They're not thinking about their communication. They're just going out there willy-nilly and they were having success. So I was really addicted to that aspect of it. So I just started I called 50 matchmakers around the country, asked them how they ran their businesses. They were all vastly different.

No two were alike. The prices were all over the place. The interview process and how they set people up. some, I agreed with, some I didn't. So I really kind of had to make it my own. And my first year was really rough. my contract went from being like a paragraph long to three pages because of Yeah,

James: Yeah. Because not given proper guidance,

Addie: I've learned this whenever I was very young Not everyone thinks like me. So what I think is abundantly obvious not to say or do on a date, someone else thinks this is a great idea.

James: put myself out

Addie: Mm-hmm.

James: What would be a good example of hard lesson learned with the contract? something that

you get the [00:04:00] phone call or the email and you say, yeah, that's going in the contract next week.

Addie: The first thing was drinking. Because even though someone has a high tolerance, let's say they can have three drinks and a couple hours, four drinks it still looks bad to their date. So that was the immediate thing that I added. No more than two drinks on the first date. It alters you no matter what.

It creates all these assumptions and the other person even if it's just a one time thing, maybe you're just really nervous and just wanna get loose on the date so that you can feel more like yourself. It still leaves a really bad taste when they're meeting you for the first time.

So that was the first thing.

James: yeah, I think if you've got the nervous jitters, having, I don't know, a compromised level of

Addie: right?

James: yourselves is probably not the way to go. Maybe meditate before the date, something, anything.

Addie: phone a friend, do something.

James: wanna be your best self. so your typical profile of one of your clients, are they looking for some of their first relationships? Are they getting out of a relationship and looking for a [00:05:00] better relationship and getting your guidance?

Addie: So I would say the thing that everyone has in common when they come to me, it's not an age thing. it's not, people are always in their forties or thir, you know, sometimes they're in their early twenties sometimes.

I've had a client that's 72 that got married. And it doesn't have anything to do with job title or education or anything like that, but usually I'm people's last resort. So they've tried everything before they come to me. And I think most people that come to a matchmaker are, they're just ready.

They're ready for something different. They want somebody to be with them through this dating journey. It can be brutal alone. so they're all really ready for a long-term monogamous relationship, whatever that means to them. It could be marriage or it could be, they might not even live in the same home, but this is their forever person.

So they're all in that place of, I've done everything else. This is it. I really want a chance at love. So I would say they all have that in common.

James: And when they come to you, I can totally see where maybe they're the last of their friends to [00:06:00] get that ring. Or guess better way to say it. All of their friends maybe they were in college with, they've got the ring and they're married, maybe started having kids and they start to look around and think, oh, it's just me left.

And. I have heard from a few people, it's hard for those folks to talk to their friends and maybe complain I would think you could be isolated pretty easily until you meet someone like yourself who can

Addie: Oh, I've seen it and heard it all. So, even though, and people say this all the time when they, you've never heard a story like mine, and maybe not, maybe the details are unique, but somebody has been through it.

I promise you, you're not alone, you're not damaged, there is someone out there. and I think it's important to share your experience so you can move on past it.

James: When people do come to you and say, Hey, Addie, you're my last resort. Or I've. Feel like I've tried everything. What are their typical frustration?

What have they gone through? What have they've tried and failed? And is there any commonality

Addie: Oh, sure. usually, I've noticed that there's four behavioral patterns with [00:07:00] people. some common complaints would be they see the same person on every dating website. It's the same four or five people over and over again that are popping up and they're not really interested in them. I've had people say that potential dates are after their money. Potential dates are only after the physical.

They only want intimacy and nothing else. I've had a lot of people say that the caliber of person that they're meeting, either online dating with their friends, it's just not what they want it to be. Okay, it's kind of a harsh way to say that, but those are the common complaints that you get.

Or there's these people thrown in that are deceptive or have drug and alcohol abuse issues you know, there's all these triggering things that they've dealt with through dating, through friends and online dating

James: And they come to you to,

Addie: to,

James: Act as a filter.

Addie: Totally. And typically somebody that's gonna do a background check and an interview with a matchmaker, then they pay for their background check, it gets rid of the riff raff,

James: me about the background. was that one of the first things you started [00:08:00] doing?

Addie: from the beginning. Okay. I knew because, I feel like I have a good read of people Most of the time. But it's not foolproof. I've interviewed people and had no idea that they were horrible and gotten their background check back and was completely blown away.

James: wow.

Addie: Wow.

James: And to the point, maybe you called him up and said, Hey did I get your middle name right with this? Because I just need to make sure.

Addie: one was a former police officer and he said it was so political and had become something that he didn't love anymore. And so he always wanted to own his own business.

and I believed him and I did tell him that I did a background check. He paid me right there after I did his interview. Went home couple days later, got the background check back and it was. Some of the most atrocious things you've ever seen, abuse of a certain kind with boys.

And I called him and I said, I don't know why you would do this. I told you I was gonna do a background check. I just can't set a woman up with this whole situation. you know, I [00:09:00] tore up your check.

And he said I'm gonna go to Christian Mingle where they don't judge people.

James: Oh boy.

Addie: So that just tells you, oh, what can be on those sides? Wow. But

James: because it is the wild west out there

Addie: is. You can create a completely new persona. but not everyone's like that.

So it's either someone very deceptive that can curate this whole profile that is not them, or it's people that just are not, in reality, they're good people. they'll describe themselves as hysterical and charming and successful and, you go out with them and they're very introverted and strange and it's not that they're bad and it's not that they're trying to trick you.

It's just that they don't see themselves the way that the world does. So it's hard to describe yourself when you're in that state.

That is fascinating.

James: it seems like it would take a ton of energy. To project something

Addie: It's exhausting.

James: not you, and then try to go live up to it one date at a time

Addie: never works out. It, they, it, the cracks start happening usually around the three month [00:10:00] mark and

James: I've read that actually. Yeah. People can put up a front for about 90 days. Yeah. That's fascinating. Now, when it comes to people who have been in a pretty long term relationship, five years, 10 years, maybe they were married for 20 years and